Tell him how you feel because you deserve the chance to move forward — or move on.
You aren’t as unlovable as you’ve been telling yourself. And you should never have to feel like you need to lie about who you are in order to find a relationship.
We stay in our comfort zones because it’s the easiest option — but it’s not the safest option. It’s dangerous to settle. It’s dangerous to stay stuck in one place. It’s dangerous to pretend we’re fulfilled when our souls are secretly hungering for more.
It’s okay to move slowly. It’s okay if you need some time before trusting someone new when the last person shattered your heart. It’s okay if you aren’t ready to be so vulnerable again so soon.
You should be able to tell your forever person when you feel on the verge of breaking down. Or when you feel too overwhelmed to put anything else on your plate. You should be able to tell your forever person what is going on inside of you, because sometimes, appearances lie. Sometimes, even the people closest to us can’t see what we’re going through — not unless we let them see. Not unless we choose to be honest. Not unless we let down our guards completely.
You aren’t going to get any better if you stubbornly stay in this place you’ve been calling your comfort zone even though you aren’t really comfortable at all.
You need to hold out for someone who shares responsibilities with you. Someone who helps you out when they see how much pressure you’ve been under, how much stress has been weighing you down.
Sometimes, being single really is for the best, because your heart is in the process of healing. Because you’re putting your energy toward working on yourself. Because you’re trying to get yourself back into a good, healthy place.
It’s hard to accept the connection you’ve built is only temporary.
A lack of effort will make your person feel unloved, unwanted, unappreciated.