When you find your forever person, you want to work on your flaws, break your bad habits, learn to take better care of your mind and body. You want to present your person with the best possible version of yourself.
This isn’t because you’re worried they’re going to run if you continue acting the way you’ve been acting. You’re confident they aren’t going anywhere. You’re positive they accept you for exactly who you are, baggage and all. You know you could continue chewing your nails and showing up late and taking hours to answer texts and they would love you anyway — but you don’t want to do that. You want to change. You want to do better.
The reason you’re working on yourself is because you want to work on yourself. It’s because you genuinely believe your person deserves your absolute best. It’s because they have done so much for you over the years, so you figure the least you could do in return is become a more loving, caring, attentive partner.
When you find your forever person, you put more and more effort into self-care. You don’t let yourself spiral. You don’t let yourself rot. You take better care of yourself mentally and physically because you want to live a long, long life with them. You want to be there for them through the good moments and the bad.
When you find your forever person, you come to the realization the way you treat yourself indirectly effects the way you treat your person. The amount of effort you put into taking care of yourself effects the amount of effort you’re able to put into your relationship.
Sure, you could technically love someone without giving that same love to yourself, but your person doesn’t want to see you upset. They don’t want to see you hanging your head, feeling insecure. They want you to love yourself. They want you to see yourself the way they see you. They want you to be happy, even when they aren’t in the room with you.
When you find your forever person, you strive to become the best version of yourself in order to give the relationship a solid shot at lasting. You work on your abandonment issues and trust issues. You put an end to your unhealthy habits. You stop yourself from choosing the easy path over the right path.
The last thing you want to do is hurt the person you love most in this universe, so you stop engaging in self-destructive behaviors. You stop falling into old, toxic habits. You make a promise to yourself that you will never lie to your person, never cheat on your person, never hurt your person in any way.
You are never going to be perfect and your person doesn’t expect you to be perfect. But when you are in the right relationship, you don’t want to settle for being a decent partner. You want to be the best partner you could possibly be because they deserve it. They deserve the healthiest sides of you.