Fire Signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)

You are blunt. You get straight to the point. You don’t hold anything back. Most of the time this is a good thing, but you have to be careful not to hurt your partner’s feelings. You might not think it’s a big deal when you mention how you wish you could sleep with a certain celebrity is or casually talk about an ex, but your partner might be uncomfortable with the conversation. You have to take their feelings into consideration. You have to be sensitive to their insecurities.

You also have to be careful about your impulsive nature and the way you allow your emotions to take control. When you are passionate about an opinion, you have trouble seeing the other side (even with something as small as which way to fold towels or which show to watch first). This can cause conversations with your person to get out of hand. It can cause arguments to escalate when you could have had a mature, casual conversation about your opposing sides.

If you want a stable relationship then you need to be careful with your temper. Your person is not going to stick around if you throw a fit every time they disagree with you over minor things.

Earth Signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)

You allow your trust and abandonment issues to get in your way of intimacy. You are always searching for an exit plan. You are always counting down until the worst case scenario. If you want a stable relationship, you have to push aside your fears and be vulnerable for a change. You have to tear down your walls and give your person full access to your heart. You cannot keep them at a distance. You cannot shut them out.

You are used to being single, to being independent, so sometimes you forget to keep your person in the loop. Even when you are not purposely trying to push them away, you might neglect to mention the raise your boss gave you, the party you’re planning on attending over the weekend, or the meltdown you had at work.

However, if you want a stable relationship, you need to be comfortable talking to your partner about everything, even the things you would usually keep inside. They are your teammate. They shouldn’t be left in the dark about what you’ve been going through day-to-day.

Air Signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius)

You are a giver. You will do anything for the people you love. But that does not mean you have to sacrifice your own needs in the process. It does not mean you have to give your person everything they want without ever stopping to think about what you want. Your person wants you to have your own opinions. They want you to have ideas on where to eat, which movie to watch, and where to take a vacation. They do not want you to mindlessly follow their lead. They want you to be yourself.

You might think you are helping the relationship by keeping quiet about your complaints, by letting them get away with hurting you, but you are allowed to speak your mind. If you keep everything bottled inside, you are going to end up resenting your person. You are going to end up unhappy in the relationship. Even though your biggest fear right now is having them leave you, you might end up choosing to leave them if you continue to let them walk over you. Don’t let that happen. Be vocal. Ask for what you want. Have a backbone.

Water Signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)

Your heart is always in the right place, but sometimes, your plans backfire. Sometimes, your person is not as excited about your grand gestures as you wish they were. You cannot assume your person wants the exact same things you want. You are two different people with two different personalities. You have to understand the surprise vacation you would love to receive might make them anxious. The flowers you wish they would buy you might do nothing for them.

Read up on love languages. The next time you want to do something sweet for your person, ask yourself what would make them happy, not what would make you happy if the roles were reversed.

With that in mind, moving forward, make sure you are on the same page. Check in with your person once in a while about the small things as well as the big things. You have a tendency to get attached easily so you might assume you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone when they are only interested in a fling or are against marriage. Make sure you discuss your intentions instead of taking guesses because this person who seems perfect for you might not be the same person you are imagining in your head.