What I Learned From Falling In Love With My Forever Person

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Falling in love with my forever person taught me how to trust. It taught me that people with soft hearts exist, people who aren’t selfish, people who aren’t only out for themselves. There are people who would never dream of hurting me. People who mean it when they say that they are never going anywhere.

Falling in love with my forever person taught me how to be a better partner. I learned how to show affection instead of hiding my emotions away, instead of pretending to be fine, instead of faking smiles and dodging questions. I learned that it’s okay to break down in front of someone, it’s okay to be vulnerable with someone, it’s okay to show my true self to someone.

Falling in love with my forever person taught me what true love looks like. I learned that those three little words are meaningless without actions to back them up. I learned that real love consists of respect, of effort, of attention. I learned that real love is about the way we treat each other during our worst days, not just during the best ones.

Falling in love with my forever person taught me the importance of friendship. It taught me to date someone I like, not just someone I love. It taught me to date the person who makes me laugh when I’m on the verge of tears. The person who makes me smile with their smile. The person who makes every single day feel like an adventure — even when we don’t leave the house.

Falling in love with my forever person taught me to be less of a pessimist. It showed me that my old view of love was wrong. It made me realize that true love does exist, that people can stay loyal, that I am not meant to be alone.

Falling in love with my forever person taught me how low my standards used to be and how I used to settle for far less than I deserve. It taught me that I was never in the right relationship until now. That I never truly knew what love meant until now.

Falling in love with my forever person taught me to stop being so afraid of the future. To stop worrying about what could happen and trust that everything will work out in the end. It made me realize that there are great things in store for me. That I have so much to be excited about.

Falling in love with my forever person taught me what it means to be in a healthy relationship. It means compromising instead of screaming. It means forgiving instead of grudge holding. It means talking things out instead of keeping secrets. It means working as a team instead of acting like we’re playing for opposite sides.

Falling in love with my forever person taught me what I want from my future. I want to find our forever home. I want to say our vows beneath an alter. I want to grow old together. I want to spend eternity together. TC mark

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  • http://savioni.wordpress.com Mario Savioni

    While I agree wholeheartedly with this piece, I wanted to interject that while the other person should never lie, cheat, or steal, there is also the need by both parties to be honest with themselves about telling the truth about their inadequacies. I, for example, would not presume to pretend to be a leader in a relationship, just because I was a man. A real man, while never willing to take advantage of the other’s willingness to be vulnerable, must also be willing to be vulnerable himself. Neither gender is perfect, and I think women would be wrong to assume or rely on men to be correct all the time. Even where leaders tend to be correct more than others, the point of life needs to be equal access. Life cannot be lived as dependent on any level. You may work together as a team, but say women who rely on their husbands to bring home the bacon have to also realize that when a woman does not work, she does not build social security. Women have to work toward their own independence. (See: Deborah L. Rhodes, who wrote What Women Want, which is basically a line-by-line factual statement about the nature of women’s lives.) Thank you for this piece. It celebrates good men and begins to reveal bad men. See also: Jessica Valenti said: “True change isn’t going to just be about stopping clearcut rape and harassment – but interrogating the way that men are taught to wear women down to acquiescence rather than looking for an enthusiastic yes.” Valenti said this in The Guardian, in the piece entitled: “Our standard for women has to be about more than what’s legal – it’s about what’s right,” 1/20/18

    This is the crux of the women’s movement and complaint. I am well -aware of how men use reverse psychology to make women feel insecure about themselves due to a created environment that makes them feel insecure and then men seem to swoop down and save them. The environment has to be made safe to begin with. This is where men have and will continue to fail. It is their job not to take advantage of women, but to work to protect them from themselves and all men, who would demonstrate character flaws of predation.

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