You Can Find Your Forever Person, Even Though You Have Anxiety

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You can have anxiety and find your forever person.

There might be days when you break down crying in front of them for no reason at all. There might be days when you get dressed up for a party — when you’re so excited to see all of your friends — and then beg your person to turn the car around at the last second because you’ve forgotten how to breathe. Because you suddenly can’t stand the thought of being around other people.

But you can have anxiety and find your forever person — as long as you find someone who understands your struggles. Someone who won’t judge you when your body shakes and your mind won’t shut up. Someone who is there for you during every late night breakdown.

You can have anxiety and create a successful career.

There might be days when you have to request off because the idea of driving down to the office makes you feel like you’re suffocating. There might be weeks when you struggle to catch up on all the work you missed, because your brain wasn’t working right the last few days and you fell behind.

But you can have anxiety and a successful career — as long as you work your ass off on your good days and don’t badger yourself too hard on your bad days. As long as you force yourself out of your comfort zone and go to those important meetings, even when you know you’ll spend the morning before breathing into a paper bag.

You can have anxiety and keep a close group of friends.

There might be times when you ignore your best friend’s texts because the last thing you want to do is socialize, even with her. There might be times when you turn down a group invitation to hang out at the bar, because you’re worried about the crowds. There might be times when you feel like a shitty friend because everyone always tries to include you and you always hide yourself away.

But you can have anxiety and a close group of friends — as long as you let them know what’s going on with your health. As long as you tell them how much you care about them so they don’t mistake your isolation as a sign that you don’t like them. As long as you put in effort to keep the friendship strong.

You can have anxiety and live a fulfilling life.

There might be days when you decide to spend all of your time in bed, trying to escape reality. There might be days when you turn down an opportunity that actually sounds like fun, because you can’t stop your hands from shaking. There might be days when you hate yourself for who you are.

But you can have anxiety and live a fulfilling life — as long as you don’t give up hope. As long as you take action and try to better yourself by going to therapy or meditating or exercising. As long as you tell yourself that you’re not going to let your anxiety ruin your life. Not anymore. TC mark

Holly Riordan is the author of
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