You will get over him. Even though I don’t know you and you don’t know me, this is my promise to you. This is what I know to be true.

You will get over him.

Even though it doesn’t feel like it right now. Even though you don’t believe me. Even though you’re not sure what to believe anymore.

You will get over him.

You will get over the pain that is currently residing in your heart and which feels like it’s moving in for good.

You will get over wishing that he’ll call you, hoping that he’ll message you to say “I miss you. I don’t want to live without you. Can we give it another try?”

You will get over the disappointment of that call or message not coming and the despair from the relentless silence of your phone.

You will get over wishing you hadn’t loved as fully or as fiercely as you did. And you will get over the desire to punish yourself for not heeding the signs that were there in the beginning but that you chose to ignore. Again.

You will get over the anger of feeling like you’re being taken for a ride.

You will get over the hurt of feeling like you’ve been left behind.

You will get over wondering whether he ever cared about you at all. (He did, even if it was only briefly.)

You will get over the sadness of knowing there was nothing more you could have done to make his heart open any further.

You will get over the sorrow of realizing that opening his heart is not your job and never was.

You will get over the longing to feel his skin and lips and hands against yours.

You will get over the fear that you might never feel that kind of chemistry and connection again.

You will get over wishing you could see him one more time because you know it won’t change anything.

But that giving yourself time to heal will change everything.

And then that day will come when you wake up and suddenly find yourself smiling for no apparent reason.

And you will realize he was not the first thing on your mind.

And you will feel so refreshed from a good night’s sleep and grateful to have had the bed all to yourself.

And you will feel excited to jump out of bed and into your day the way you used to.

And you will know that you deserve so much more than what you’ve been accepting for yourself.

And you will accept that you deserve someone with a heart as open as yours.

And you will know you will never settle for less again.

And you will know you are enough and worthy and beautiful with or without a guy.

And you will know that you are loved. Not because someone else loves you, but because you love yourself.

That day is coming. And it will come sooner rather than later, just as long as you let yourself be where you are right now.

Just as long as you allow yourself to feel everything you’re feeling in this moment.

Just as long as you don’t resist or fight or try to change what you’re experiencing this second.

Which is, at this particular point in time, in this particular moment, that you’re not over him.

And that’s okay. Because one day you will be.

I promise.