Elizabeth Stone

If you’re hoping to get back together with your ex, then this is for you.

Does it feel like your relationship is a roller coaster that you just can’t seem to step off of? Do you go from happy to sad at the drop of a hat? Have you stayed up late picking your friends brains about your man’s behavior?

In bizarre dating and relationship behavior-land, there’s the commitment-phobe, and I know this mess of a behavior pattern well since I was once one myself.

It usually goes like this: You meet someone online who seems to have real potential. After a few back-and-forth messages on the online dating service, you give them your phone number.

Narcissism exists on a spectrum. These self-centered folks can simply be more focused on themselves, or it can cross over into an actual personality disorder. Either way, narcissists are legendarily difficult to have relationships with.

“You’re too clingy,” he said, after a breakup speech that left a knot in my gut.