Maybe you’re worried about where your job will lead you in the next year, and you want to start planning every last concrete detail. Or, maybe you’re wondering if you should be looking for a new job, and you’re completely stressed out about what that job would be, and if it would be better than your current job. Maybe you’ve even filled out 15 job applications, and have a pro and con list for each job already created prior to hearing anything out from the jobs. And maybe all of this job searching is completely drawing your attention away from a possible job advancement at your current career (that could actually be wonderful for you).

Or, perhaps you’re concerned about when your boyfriend will finally move in with you, and you want to nail down the date 10 months in advance so you can start thinking of exactly when and where you’ll be moving. Does this sound familiar to you? We all get caught up in future tripping because we all want to have concrete plans. We all want to be certain of timelines, details, and solutions so that we have control over what is going to happen in our life.

And to be honest, we all crave control. When things aren’t going our way, our instinct is to fix them. We want power over what happens so that we are reassured that we know what we are doing. Even when things are going well, we want to have the final say. We want to micromanage the situation because if we don’t, we fear what may happen. Leaving things up to the universe can feel too risky and too anxiety provoking. We want to have the power to create the solution, so we try to take over. And we tend to get so stuck in the future or so stuck in the details that we often get let down when things change, or when we don’t get what we want.

So what would you think if I said that if you loosen your grasp on the reigns just a little bit, the solution will come to you? I know, it sounds like BS. But it’s actually the truth. You see, what you want is out there, and what you want is actually attracted to you. If you want something badly enough, you can draw it in…you can get it.

Say what? All of this has to do with the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction is a universal principle that essentially explains that like attracts like.

So basically, you can attract positive experiences into your life. You can attract what you desire. You can attract what you want and turn it into reality. You can be the co-creator, the co-writer of your life. You just have to be more open to possibilities, and open to good things happening to you. It’s kind of a law of optimism in some ways. See, if you don’t open your mind up to the possibility that good things may come your way, you’ll miss out on opportunities because you won’t be looking for them. Or if you don’t believe you deserve good things, you won’t notice them when they present themselves. Conversely, if you are expecting good things to come your way, you will see the opportunities and chase them. You’ll see steps that you can take to get you to where you want to be. And the truth of the matter is, people who are optimistic tend to have more success. And thus, the Law of Attraction is actually based in science. Many studies prove that our thoughts have tangible and immediate impacts on our environments and on ourselves.

So here’s the thing. Rather than putting your energy into wanting something specific, you should instead use your energy to seek the feeling that you desire.

If you want love, don’t just focus on one specific person who doesn’t seem to be interested in you. Look at love on a larger scale. What does love feel like? If you seek the feeling rather than the concrete thing or person, you will have much better luck in fulfilling your desire because your heart will be open to more opportunities. The universe can then help you pull in the love that you are attracting because like attracts like.

And if you want to dive deeper into the law, attracting what you desire can also be explained in terms of energy. As the inspirational guru, Gabby Bernstein, said, “We’re all beings of energy. When our energy vibrates at a low level, we attract low-level circumstances. But when our energy is in a high vibration we attract positive outcomes.” So like energy attracts like energy. If we use our manifesting power to seek confidence, love, and joy, like will attract like, and we will receive positive energy back from the universe.

So basically, what you can take away from the Law of Attraction is that the universe is actually on your side, and you can attract whatever it is that you want.

But what you have to do is attract the feeling, rather than the concrete “solution,” and keep your mind open to opportunities that may present themselves, even if these opportunities are subtle or hidden. This allows you to loosen up on the control, and instead be open to the feelings you are drawn towards. It allows you to see yourself living in abundance. It allows you to see your own greatness, and to feel optimistic that what you seek is also seeking you.

It’s important to remember that what you want may not come to you in the way you anticipated it would, so keep your mind open. You will actually attract something greater than what you anticipated because the universe knows what you need. The universe has your back. And because of this, you have to learn to surrender to the universe and surrender to faith. Rather than trying to control every component of your life, try to draw in and create the feelings you crave and desire.

Allow the universe to be on your side. Let go of the control, and focus on what you value and what you deserve.

You deserve to wake up in a good mood when your alarm clock goes off in the morning. You deserve to go to a job that sparks your heart or your mind; a job that helps you to feel at home. You deserve to be complete and whole all on your own. And when you’re ready for love, you deserve a love that lifts you higher, a love that compliments you rather than completes you. A love that helps you to fall in love with yourself first.

And you can attract all of these things. I promise.

They say that patience is a virtue. But if you know that so much goodness is out there waiting for you, seeking you, you’ll be okay with patience. You’ll be okay with waiting because you will already know what the outcome will be. You create your own reality. So remember how you wish to feel, and how you deserve to feel. Remember that the positive energy you send out will come back to you. Like attracts like. What you seek is seeking you.