Everything you do is a reflection of yourself — yes, even stuffing another person’s genitals in your mouth. And when you pay lip service to his manhood, you’re saying a lot about who you are (even if you can’t literally say much at all in that moment.)

That’s why you should think very carefully about the type of blow job you want to give and what message it could be sending.

1. Deep throat

You don’t do anything halfway. With you, it’s all or nothing, especially when it comes to penises. You practiced suppressing your gag reflex on your own time because you want to blow his mind while you blow his member.

You’re selfless and committed, able to dedicate yourself to your partner 100 percent when the need arises.

2. Using your hands

You’re efficient and thorough. Your coworkers may describe you as “slightly OCD.”

Being hands-on says you’re in it to win it. You don’t have time to mess around with different techniques. You’re giving him as much stimulation as possible with the end result in mind.

You’re not into wasting anybody’s time. You’re all about finding the shortest distance between two points and taking that straight line directly to the destination. You’re dedicated and disciplined, and never leave your partner wanting.

3. Using your teeth

You’re a monster.

4. Making things messy

For you, life is about the journey, not the destination. You believe the art of the blow job is creating an intense and memorable experience. If your mascara is running and everybody’s a little sticky, it’s just a sign of passion.

You feel that the enthusiasm of the moment is more important than the orgasm itself. If you’re always driving toward the same end result, then how you get there is all the more important. You’re creative and fiery, always willing to stoke the flames of love.

5. Including the balls

When performing a blow job, the penis takes the starring role. But the truly caring and nurturing include the testicles in on the action.

Often forgotten, the balls can easily be left out of the bedroom equation. For you, leaving any potential pleasure stone unturned is unthinkable. You want to take care of your partner wholly and completely, inside the bedroom and out.

6. While in the 69 position

Wise and altruistic, the 69 is the position of givers. You get off on pleasuring your partner so much that you need to be taken care of, too. And honestly, it’s just a smart call overall.

Why have one person benefit when you both can? You see the bigger picture and want what’s best for both of you.

7. You don’t give blowjobs

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8. Bonus: spit/swallow decision

Spitters focus more on the physical aspect of love, while swallowers on the mental. If you spit, you feel that the act of the blow job culminates with the orgasm, so why should it matter what you do with the semen?

If you swallow, you’re showing/telling your partner you want every part of them.