Nothing truly beautiful ever asks for attention – it just naturally exists, as it is, in confidence and boldness.
Remember this the next time you chase someone you think you love. Remember this the next time you feel as if you need to compete for the attention of someone you admire. Generationally speaking, we often feel the need to prove ourselves to the heart we regard. We often feel the need to change ourselves to better suit their needs, we often wonder if we are exactly what they are looking for, or if they have other options. I have heard the sentiment many times over, I have seen it dissect beautiful moments and sensationalize less than beautiful relationships. Stop the ‘if onlys’ and the “but maybes.” Trust me when I say that those do not exist within the boundaries of the love you want. They only exist within the reality of the love you chase.
The most awe-inspiring person you will ever have the privilege of loving will plant their feet firmly in front of you and say, “This is what I want.” There will be courage, transparency. There will be declaration, and certainty.
The love you deserve will not exist within insecurity, there will be no need for you to compare yourself to others or compete. The most awe-inspiring person you will ever have the privilege of loving will choose you every single day, and you will choose them just the same. And if there ever comes a time where you cannot hold their heart within your hands, if there ever comes a time where you cannot contain all of the love you are receiving — the love you deserve will known when to lay down its arms. It will know when to stop fighting. You will not feel the need to grip, you will not feel the need to chase something that fails to fulfill you or inspire you. You will walk away knowing that you experienced something rare, that it grew you in ways you will discover as you move forward and put yourself back together again. That is the kind of love you deserve.
So — do not chase another human being. Instead, chase your curiosity. Chase your development and your goals. Chase your passion. Strive to work for something bigger than yourself, and instead of trying to convince someone that you fit within their world, strive to build your own.
Relationships are not melting pots. They are unions. You walk into them with your own visions, your own hunger, and when you are confident in that, when you allow for that to thrive within you, you never break yourself down to appease the pursuit. You simply exist, as you are, and when you meet someone who does as well, when you meet someone who chooses you within that, you thrive together, and that creates a dynamic that is ever growing and influential.
Nothing beautiful ever asks for attention. Let that be a testament. The truly carnal relationship, the attraction, the pull to another human being – it simply survives. It flourishes. It is the kind of beauty that lives within ribcages, that surges throughout bones, that you cannot explain, that allows you to “just know.” It is never bred from contest; it is never bred from uncertainty. You will never have to work to inspire it within someone. It will simply exist within them.