RomanceBreaking Up

This Is Why I Let You Go

I am not one to let go of anything or anyone easily. One of my greatest strengths is my ability to see the good in every situation and every person. The ability to find compassion in the pain they’ve experienced and understand how it’s shaped them into the person that they are.

While it’s more often a strength, the downfall is when it keeps me clinging to a situation or person that doesn’t bring me peace.

No relationship is one-sided, and it’s not about placing blame. It’s about being aware of who we become in the presence of others.

In your presence, I couldn’t hold my boundaries. In your presence, I couldn’t easily speak my mind. In your presence, I was walking on eggshells.

I had to let go because I didn’t like who I became when I was with you. I became the people pleaser; I became the victim. I became old versions of myself that I had worked so hard not to be.

It doesn’t mean there wasn’t good parts. If there weren’t good parts, I wouldn’t have been there in the first place.

In your presence, I tried new things. In your presence, I was vulnerable. In your presence, I became more comfortable in my skin.

I recognize there was healing, growth, and joy, but it wasn’t consistent.

We are human and we are imperfect. No one brings us peace all the time, yet at the end of the day, the good must outweigh the bad.

The people in your life should inspire you to be better than you were. You should leave their presence feeling lighter. You should leave their presence feeling at peace.

Some relationships are meant to last forever, and some relationships are meant to give us lessons.

We don’t learn the lesson if we continue to hang on to anything or anyone that keeps us from evolving.

I let go because I couldn’t hold on anymore. I couldn’t hold on to waiting for the change that never seemed to come.

I let go because I needed the space to become the person I want to be.

I let go because I needed the room to grow. TC mark

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