Attraction is a remarkably interesting thing. Much of the science of attraction is rooted in biology, and many believe that physical appearance is the main driving force that makes you attractive—which isn’t entirely true. How people look does play a role, but the truth is that to sustain the attraction you need something more substantial.

Here is a list of things that make you truly attractive.

1. Being Authentic

Being your true self and showing your genuine personality requires a level of strength that very few have. It shows that you respect who you are and stand up for what you believe in. People are always attracted towards these people as they form real relationships because they are real.

2. Being A Good Listener

In a world where everyone loves listening to the sound of their own voice, finding someone who really listens when you are talking is truly magnetic. People are drawn to those who ask questions, listen, and remember.

3. Having A Purpose In Life

There is something appealing about those people who have a sense of purpose in life—it doesn’t have to be something big. Having that level of selflessness where it is more than just making money and surviving has an allure of its own. Have an interest in something more than just yourself.

4. Laughing And Smiling

Smiling makes the heart happy, and when you laugh, you radiate inner beauty, and usually, everyone is drawn to happy, smiling faces. Smiling helps you connect with other people. Did you know that the most successful people smile the most?

5. Being Open-Minded

It is not necessary that you agree with everyone, but it is important to have an open mind that lets you listen to everyone’s views. One aspect of being an adult that many do not accept is that it is possible to coexist with other adults who do not think exactly the way you do. And when it is a serious matter, both parties need to listen to one another.

6. Not Complaining Too Much

A lot of our thoughts and conversations revolve around complaining, if you think about it, and it’s hard to have a conversation with anyone without complaining about something. This will take work, but try whatever possible to not complain and see how much better you feel. Also, everyone loves someone who isn’t always complaining. If you whine too much, you might end up alone.

7. Being Nice

Our parents and teachers told us it is important to be nice because it is true. People prefer nice people over those who nag and complain. How we treat others is a reflection of who we are. We like nice people, so we should try to be the kind of people we like.

8. Being Kind

People who are kind are perceived as more attractive—call it the halo effect, but everyone prefers a kind person over a mean one. Try to treat people the best you can and be there for others when they need you. Be less selfish.

9. Being Financially Responsible

This can be important, because we all need money to survive in this world, so how you work to save and spend money can make you attractive or repulsive, depending on what your target demographic is.

10. Having Social Groups

People who socialize in groups are seen as friendly and approachable because they have people surrounding them and have social support. It shows that you are able to create and maintain adult relationships with others. It is harder to be attracted to a loner than one who has friends.

11. Taking Care Of Yourself

How we present ourselves is a big part of what makes us attractive so pay attention to your health and hygiene because it shows how you will care for others as well. It’s not just about your specific appearance—this level of self-care is more about self-love.

Be the kind of person that you want to be friends with. Be the kind of person that you would find attractive.