This amazing guide was written by Jackie_ over at Reddit.

Disclaimer: PLEASE only do things YOU are comfortable with. Don’t let your partner pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. Everything must be consensual between both partners. This is a guide for “basic” techniques and what I feel most people would be comfortable with.

I don’t claim to be an expert. This guide is simply for those who are beginners in the BJ department or are wanting to learn to enjoy yourself while pleasing your man.

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Hey there! I’ve seen a few “how-to’s” on giving girls oral sex, but I haven’t seen too many guides on giving your man some mouth loving. I’m here to talk about the good ole’ BJ and what you can do to be sure your partner (and you!) can make the most out of your oral sexy times. But first, let me give you some background info about me.

My man and I (woman, here) have been together for 7.5 years. We starting dating young, and we’ve only been sexual with one another (he was the second boy I kissed!); we’ve explored a lot and I’ve learned quite a bit about myself. Did I always love giving blowjobs? No. Did I even know how to give a blowjob? Heck no. Was the first BJ awkward? Oooh, yes. Did I like to swallow? Ewww. The man cream didn’t really taste like cream at all. But, despite all that, here I am today giving blowjobs and loving every minute (inch?) of it. Becoming a goddess (or god) of the meat pole takes time and patience…which leads to my first point.

Communication

• I can’t stress enough how important communication is. Discussing like and dislikes, exploring new territory, and chatting about what was good and what wasn’t so good. Its important for both of you to know what you’re okay with while getting down n’ dirty.

Safety

• Protecting yourself and your partner is also very important. I highly encourage both parties to get tested for STI’s/STD’s before jumping right into it. Don’t wanna get any nasties while having some fun!

Condoms

• I’ll be honest here. My SO and I don’t use condoms while I’m giving him head. I’m personally not a fan of having latex and odd smelling lube in and around my mouth. Condoms are optional, but if neither of you have been tested, you should probably use them just to be safe.

Enough with the yapping, let’s get on with the juicy stuff.

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The Tease

• When you see each other in the morning, give him a big kiss and gently graze your hand over his junk. Go about your day like normal.
• Call him or send him a text(s). Tell him that you’ve been thinking about him all morning and you can’t wait to get home to suck his cock.

The Warm Up

This is entirely up to you! But I’ll give you some examples to get you started.

• When you are both home together, pull him by his shirt into you. Kiss him and pull him into the bedroom (or living room, or dining room; I encourage you to get a little creative with your locations). No harm in getting what you want, right?
• Break out of your shell and get a little dominant. Push him onto the bed. Climb on top and make out for a little bit.
• When you kiss him, suck his lower lip. Glide your lips across his skin and lick his earlobe. Give it a little nibble. Now suck it a little. Kiss down his neck and move down towards his chest. Moan a little. Kiss and lick down his chest and stomach. Undo his belt and/or unbutton his pants. Kiss back up to him and place your hand on his bulge. Gently squeeze. Give him a deep kiss on the lips and travel back down. Take off his pants and underwear (or leave them on) and get ready for the action.

The BJ

Awww yeah, the good part.

• Positions: there are multiple positions you can choose from:
  • Him laying down with you scooched between his legs
  • Him sitting and you kneeling in front of him
  • Him standing with you kneeling in front of him, etc.

It’s up to you and your partner to decide which position is best, but I find that him laying down is easiest and he gets to really relax and enjoy the show. ;)

The Moves

Have fun with this! Enjoy it and I promise he will too. :)

• The sensitive spots: the areas around his penis are sensitive and need a little attention.
  • Tease him a little bit. Gently kiss and/or lick his inner thighs and lower stomach (below the naval).
• The shaft: the main part of the show. It’s what you’ll mostly be focusing on throughout your entire performance.
  • Slide your flat tongue from the base to the top of the head (and over the frenulum).
  • Lick your lips and slide them along the shaft. Make out with it a little.
  • Keep your lips tight around the shaft while you move up and down. It creates a “vacuum” effect which feels really nice for him.
  • Be gentle! Please don’t use your teeth. If you have to, cover your bottom teeth with your tongue to prevent anything bad from happening!
  • Use your tongue! Don’t let it lay in your mouth like a dead fish. Lick all around his shaft. Circle it around the head.
  • Be sure to use your hands to your advantage. Grip his penis and move it up and down in sync with your mouth. Be sure there’s enough lube (see: saliva) for it to glide up and down smoothly. Dry rubs may be good for steak, but not for your man’s dick. Use both hands if you want!
  • Gently suck on the head of his penis while your hand moves up and down.
• The balls: these babies need some lovin’ too.
  • Gently massage them while you are working his shaft.
  • Don’t be afraid to use your mouth on them! And again, please no teeth! These guys are super sensitive so licking and gently (and I mean geeently) sucking on them should feel great for your man.
  • Lick/suck his balls while you stroke his cock.

The Finale

I suggest discussing how/where he will finish in advance with your partner. Now isn’t the time for an awkward “Uhhh, where should I cum? Is it okay if I cum in your mouth?”

• Swallowing: this can be slightly tricky. You may not like the taste or the texture. You may not want him to cum in your mouth for various reasons. YOU DON’T HAVE TO SWALLOW. Yes, it is easier clean up and a good portion of guys find it hot (see: porn), but again, only do what you want to do.
• Spitting: there are days when I don’t want to swallow. You can let him cum in your mouth, then spit it out in the sink/in a towel/whatever you fancy, or, you can let it drip down his cock and it can be cleaned up afterwards.

Extras/Miscellaneous

Things to make it more enjoyable for both partners.

• Be Vocal! If you’re giving the blowjob, be vocal and moan every once in a while. It lets him that he’s not the only one having a good time. Heck, you may even start to enjoy it more if you moan, too.
• Eye Contact: this was something I had to get comfortable with myself. Eye contact can be very arousing for him and I feel it allows us to be closer when I’m goin’ down.
• Hands! Your hands against his skin will make things even better. Lightly scratch your nails along his chest and stomach. Hold his hand while you blow him. Grab him at the hips like you mean it.
• Facial expressions: don’t be too serious looking while you’re down there. Glance up at him and grin right before you take him in your mouth. Subtle things make a big difference.
• After the blowjob: cuddle and kiss! Nothing better than cuddling after a good BJ session.

More Advanced

If you’re up for the challenge.

• Deepthroating: Not everyone is born a deep-throater. You may have to learn to do this. Take his cock back as far as you can go and hold it there for a few seconds. I’ve heard it’s a different feeling, but can feel really nice.
• Dominance and Submission: have a safe word if you’re going to get a little kinkier. Communication in this area is extremely important. If you’re feeling more dominant, hold his wrists down and take total control. Hold your body weight up by placing your arms on his legs. Use restraints on him if you want. If you want to be more submissive, have him place his hands on your head/grab your hair and let him guide your mouth on his cock. Have him thrust into your mouth.
• Snowballing: not something everyone is into. This is the process of him cumming into your mouth, then you swap the cum between each other’s mouths. Definitely ask about this beforehand if it’s something you’re interested in.

Blowjobs can be so much fun! They are one of my favorite things to do on a regular basis now. I promise, the way to a man’s heart is not only through his stomach, but through his cock as well. You can have this be the main event, or you can do this before you have sex. Either way, it’s still a fantastic thing to add to your sex-capades.

I hope this guide was helpful and I hope it was able to improve your dick sucking skills. Let me know in the comments! I’d love to hear success stories.

EDIT: I understand that I did not mention the perineum and prostate in this guide, as it is intended for beginners.