45 Guys Share The One Thing They Judge Girls On Immediately (But Never Admit To)

1. If I’m at dinner, my number one thing will be to look at how she treats our server. As a server myself, I have no respect for a girl who thinks she’s above the wait staff. – Drew, 24

2. If the girl is late because she’s taking so long to get ready, I’m already less interested. Get ready earlier. I know you’re trying to play a dating game already and it’s just a huge turn-off. – Jake, 29

3. How many selfies she posts, and how much duck face is involved in them. Self-love is great, but it tends to be the case that girls who post a lot of photos of themselves are seeking some kind of validation that I don’t want to end up being responsible for giving. – Caleb, 24.

4. I know she doesn’t really want that salad and she’s ordering it because she thinks she should. I would rather she just be herself and get what she likes. – Greg, 25

5. How much she looks at her phone. Obviously everyone’s gonna text, but if she’s on it the whole time when we’re first starting to hang out, it’s just such a huge turnoff. – Seth, 25

6. I don’t know where society got the idea that men don’t care that much about personality. All the men I know do. Strong, funny, interesting,smart women are where it’s at. Nothing more disappointing than a dull person, woman or man, honestly. – Clark, 30

7. If a woman says she likes a sports team I like just to agree with me, I’m out. We don’t need to like the same things. Just be honest. – Luke, 23

8. If she says something like, “Well, you’re a guy so you will do [really cliche thing]” I feel like I can’t be myself. I don’t think she has to do anything specific because she’s a woman, so why do I have to speak for my entire gender? – Kenneth, 28

9. One time I got drinks with a girl and she was like approving my tastes as if they were acceptable. I got this glimpse of the future, and it was just her molding me into everything she wanted. I threw up in my mouth. – Chris, 26

10. Personal thing, but food is by far my favorite part of dating – going to cool restaurants, being adventurous food-wise (food is sex). So if she’s vegan, vegetarian, on the anti-gluten team, we’re just not gonna be compatible. – Dave, 28

11. If a woman wears shoes she can’t even walk in from the parking lot to the movie theatre, I’m disinterested quickly. I get that women think we like high heels and maybe I’m the weird one here, but I’d rather my date wear something comfortable. – Clancy, 26

12. No sense of humor! I’m interested in a relationship. If we can’t laugh right from the beginning, we are never going to work. – Peter, 24

13. Girls who are funny are an immediate turn-on. Sometimes they’re exhausting and tough to keep up with, but such a turn-on. – James, 25

14. If I’m on a first date with a woman and she has no strong opinions and seems to care about NOTHING, I just die inside a little. WTH are we supposed to talk about for the rest of this date, never mind during a long-term relationship? Gross. – Jesse, 27

15. How much her ‘put together’ appearance differs from what she actually looks like. I’m totally about self expression and looking the way you want and being who you want, but I’m not wild about having dinner looking at once face and then going home to a completely different one. – Jon, 28.

16. Whenever I’m looking to get serious with a girl (so like twice), I like to go do something like karaoke. Karaoke is adventurous, and you put yourself out there in a way that’s really rare and bonds you with this look that I can’t explain, but is just so powerful. It’s great. – Marcus, 26

17. How she feels about Doritos. I hate Doritos, and cannot be around Doritos for prolonged periods of time. – Lance, 24

18. How basic she is. God you’re all going to kill me for this, but honestly, there’s a difference between enjoying the little things in life and acting like a 12-year-old. – Mark, 29

19. What books she has in her room/apartment. Always. – Kyle, 25

20. If she’s not down to go to Taco Bell pretty much at any moment, I am judging her hardcore for that. Who doesn’t like Taco Bell? Monsters, that’s who. – Jamie, 29

21. I have an embarrassing music taste. I don’t exactly flaunt my love for emo bands and boy bands, but they are a huge part of my rotation and can’t date a girl who has no respect for LMNT. – Derek, 23

22. How she puts herself together for the occasion. If we’re going on a coffee date and she’s wearing one of those Forever 21 bandage dresses (yes I know what those are) it’s just… very much a turn-off. (Forever 21 bandage dresses at the club, however, are not.) – Michael, 22

23. I feel like this is sad, but social media stuff. A girl that’s gonna post about me I’m not exactly down with. Seems to be more and more of a thing every day. – Rob, 31

24. Ok I know this is probably controversial, but I judge a girl who doesn’t at least OFFER to pay her half of the bill on a date. – Brandon, 33

25. How many ‘issues’ she has with her ‘friends.’ Girls who have problems with everybody in their lives are usually the problem themselves. – Mark, 29

26. How high her voice goes while she’s talking to you. Girls who drastically shift their tones or speak condescendingly with people are usually pretty fake about more things than they let on. – Jonathan, 30

27. There’s this Seinfeld clip that I can’t find, but George comes back from a date and says that he’s fine paying the bill, but you gotta at least go for the “reach” — like when you’re paying, the girl should at least reach for her wallet. I’ll always pay, but you gotta do the reach. – Jerome, 24

28. What they studied/did in college. I just can’t date a Communications major from a sorority. Not my type. (Y’all are great, but not for me.) – Marcus, 27

28. The first thing she says when you ask her what she likes to do with her spare time. If it’s “uhhhh… I don’t know,” well… she’s not going to “know” about a lot of things going forward, or as you get more serious (or not.) Women who know who they are, what they want, and what they like aren’t just hot… they’re ideal. – Steve, 34

29. I’m big into lifting, and I’d prefer a girl who’s into some sort of fitness; running, lifting, whatever. Not to be that guy, but it’s a way of life, and I want someone who’s into that too. – Russ, 22

30. Whether or not she likes kids. You have to be on the same page with the basics, at least in my book. – Ron, 29

31. What kind of shoes she’s wearing. You can tell a lot about a person by their choice of footwear. – Kevin, 24

32. Pretty simply, what she’s wearing. Not in a “that’s so out of style!” way, just in a, “Oh, this is who you are communicating you are” way. To be honest, most guys kind of evaluate girls by their appearances, and not on whether they’re “hot” or not… it’s about who they seem to be. That’s the first step toward any kind of relationship, girls get too sensitive about it. We aren’t judging how pretty you are, we’re judging whether we should give this thing a shot by who you seem to be saying you are, that’s all we have to work with, at least initially. – Brandon, 28

33. If a woman expects me to do everything and doesn’t take any initiative, it just feels inauthentic. Is that really how she lives her life? Probably not. It feels like she’s trying to be who she thinks I want her to be and that’s really unattractive. – Sam, 31

34. Smokers. Not for me. – Trent, 25

35. If she gets trashed to the point of me having to hold her up as we walk out of the restaurant/bar, yeah… it’s not going to work out. – Mike, 29

36. If she laughs at everything you say, or if she sincerely laughs because she finds something funny. There’s a huge difference, and most guys see it, even if you think you’re fooling us. – Caleb, 34

37. Whether or not she seems sincere. (We can tell.) – Brody, 23

38. How she approaches sex, especially right off the bat. Some girls go out of their way to seem really willing or really unavailable, but then do a 180 a day later. I will respect and comply with what you say you do and do not want, but the flip flopping gets confusing, and makes me uncomfortable. (Does she really want this? Is she just saying she does? I don’t know and I don’t want to be blamed for not being perceptive enough later on.) – Reuben, 31

39. My last girlfriend hated when I grew a beard, but acted like she was ok with it just because she felt like she had to. When we broke up, she admitted she hated it. So I guess just being honest about that sorta stuff. – Jesse, 22

40. If a girl can’t watch silly YouTube videos with me at 2am while snacking on some chips and salsa, then sorry, not the girl for me. – Danny, 22

41. If you’re too flirty… like, really, inappropriately flirty. I just assume you behave this way with everyone. You barely know me and you’re acting like we’re in a relationship, who am I to assume you actually like me as opposed to just being who you are? Who am I to assume you won’t act this way with other guys if and when we’re together? – George, 30

42. Whether or not you can communicate what you want in bed. I don’t want to have to guess, guessing and assuming only gets us in trouble, but you not responding clearly when I ask questions and then seeming like you contradictorily do or don’t want what you just told me to do makes it really hard (pun NOT intended.) – James, 29

43. If she’s talking about her ex, how much she hates her family, or it’s just clear there’s 7,000 different issues, then…she’s the girl for me. What can I say? I love an impossible situation. – Mark, 26

44. If a girl has to take a picture of our food for Instagram before we can dive in, I’m kind of like, “really???????” I get it, your Insta-game is strong, but let’s enjoy the moment. – Zane, 27

45. I’m going to judge a girl if she says she gets bored. Who gets bored? There’s so much to do in life! Boring people get bored. Sorry not sorry. – Trey, 20