250 People Reveal The Lesson They Learned After A Failed Relationship

We asked, and you guys answered! Below are the best responses.

“Giving people lots of chances will just break your heart more.”

“The relationship failed. I am not a failure. I learned that the person/people that leave are NOT connected to my destiny.”

“You cannot force someone to work it out if they don’t want to.”

“Don’t date an immature guy expecting he will grow up, especially if he’s narcissistic. He won’t.”

“If it’s not the right time it doesn’t matter how great you think they are-you aren’t ready.”

“Never abandon Europe to go live in the Amazon with a new partner.”

“You just love the person until that love fades away.”

“What you want can’t always be found in someone else.”

“Stand up for yourself. Make your wants and needs known. Communicate.”

“Never get used to emotional/verbal abuse. You are worth more than that.”

“You cannot give what you don’t have. Love yourself first. Then let love flow.”

“Forgive people, no matter how bad they hurt you. It’s for you, not them.”

“Never try to argue with a drunk, just leave!”

“That if his child/children aren’t his NUMBER ONE priority, it will never work out.”

“Move on sooner than later. Time is the most valuable thing you’ll ever have.”

“Ask more questions, talk to old girlfriends or ex-wives, plus family.”

“Friendships change afterward you lose some people and you gain some amazing ones.”

“To trust my instincts and when I feel that it’s over, that’s exactly what it is…over!”

“The ugly truth is better than a pretty lie.”

“Build on it, use it to grow. Mistakes are only failures when we don’t learn from them.”

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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