When you get your heart broken for the first time, you can’t imagine loving someone else again or having someone else love you. You’re not sure what to do with yourself because you don’t understand why the person you loved so much just walked out on you.
So you do the only thing you can do after crying a river: you pick yourself up and do the best you can to move on with your life. And just when you start to enjoy life and be happy again sans a partner, someone comes along and robs you off your sleep.
The first time you fall in love after a heart break, it’s going to be different. Instead of the usual excitement and butterflies in your stomach feeling, you will be overcame with an overwhelming sense of resistance. You’ve gotten so used to and comfortable with being alone that you find nothing more desirable and fulfilling than the single life. You probably have said ‘I’m not into commitments’ a million times, and you believe this so genuinely that you have mentally blocked yourself from getting attracted. And then it happens.
The first time you fall in love after a heart break, you’ll panic. After realizing you’ve flipped, fear will creep in. That is on top of the smiles to yourself, the butterflies in your stomach and the excitement. It is undeniably the most fucked up combination. You’ll spend sleepless nights thinking if you can do it again, then their name pops on your phone, and suddenly you don’t care anymore. And repeat ad nauseam.
The first time you fall in love after a heart break, you’ll feel scared, and that is as you find yourself falling harder and harder, and them getting closer and closer to the parts of you you’ve locked away so perfectly. You will realize it’s getting committed that you’re scared of. It’s the fear of reprise, of heartbreak. While the logical part of yourself tells you it’s inevitable and no matter how hard you try to spare yourself from it, you wouldn’t listen to logic. You will cave in.
The first time you fall in love after a heart break, you’ll suffer from a bout of amnesia. You give in to the feeling, but still try to convince yourself you’re in control. You will realize falling in love for the second time is the same as the first, but with perspective.
You’re going to poke and prod your partner and be like, ‘How do I do this again? How do I love you?” Falling in love again is sort of like riding a bike though. You never really forget, and somehow, it doesn’t bore you. Actually, you like it.
The first time you fall in love after a heart break, you’re more aware. You have gained some grip on reality that you didn’t have before, you’ll end up on the opposite end of the spectrum. Were you super friendly with your guy friends you had not thought your boyfriend might be jealous? You will be more sensitive. Were you the jealous and possessive boyfriend who wants her to yourself? You will be more trusting. You will hope you know how it works..after all the lessons you’ve learned in the past.
The first time you fall in love again after a heart break, you will love like you’ve never done it before. After letting go of everything that stops you from enjoying the moment, you will find yourself writing the letter you swore you’ll never write again. You will enjoy the love songs you got sick of listening to. You will hold hands, cuddle and snuggle, and kiss like you don’t care about the world that you will forget all the snarky comments you made when you were the one witnessing those things in public. Who gives a shit? You’re happy.
The first time you fall in love again after a heart break, it will be amazing. You lie there watching him snoring in his sleep and then it will suddenly hit you that you have fallen, hard and irrevocably.
You’ll want to laugh at yourself for the quirk of the moment. But the one thing you won’t want to do is to leave. You couldn’t even if you tried.
The first time you fall in love again is not the first. The first time was insane and magical – something you cannot reclaim, but that’s okay. What you have now is the cheesiest, most cringe-inducing realization you’ll have. But you’ll smile when you get it because you have never felt like this before. Because what you have now is real. It’s about two whole people coming to make something new together. Something beautiful. Something lasting.