Maybe Your Relationship Failed Because You’re Ready For Something Better

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I do believe my future is bigger than my past.

As soon as I heard these words spoken by Steve Gleason in his documentary titled, Gleason, it struck a chord within me.

There are so many times in life when we are so hyper-focused upon the mistakes we have made. We focus upon our failed relationships, our lost opportunities and the should’ves, could’ves, would’ves.

Little do most people know that those moments in life when we feel our failures will completely ruin us, they can actually be blessings in disguise.

Did you ever stop to think that maybe a relationship failed because growth was completed by both people involved and a better, healthier relationship was waiting for each?

Each person experienced what they needed to in the relationship and now it was time to move on.

Or perhaps a lost opportunity was a door closing and even though it was horrendous to experience and go through, little did you know an amazing and more fulfilling opportunity was just around the corner.

It’s okay to live in the past for the sake of recognizing the lesson each situation you’ve experienced has provided for you and even to be grateful for those lessons.

It’s why you’ve had those experiences, although at the time, when you were going through it, it was the last thing you were thinking about.

Those were the moments when you were in it so deeply, you didn’t even know what the light looked like at the end of the tunnel as you dug your way out of the darkness.

You see, that’s the thing… that darn light.

During the moments when you’re at rock bottom, just see it, envision that light. Even if the light that shines through for you is simply the size of a pinhole, at least it is there.

Truth? It’s always been there because it resides within you. Once you begin to realize this, it makes putting one foot in front of the other a bit easier.

I believe my future is bigger than my past, because I refuse to allow my past to define the direction of where I want to go in my life, who I want to have along for the journey, and the opportunities I have yet to experience.

Society tells us that you have to have your successes accomplished within a specific age range and I just don’t agree with that.

There is still much love to give and to receive, there is much that has yet to be accomplished, there is much to see, there is a lot of life to be lived and yes, there are even more lessons to be learned.

What we do need to take away from our past is what we have learned and to recognize the growth that has occurred.

Use those lessons to be more aware of the actions you take moving forward so you’re able to make the right decisions for yourself to enjoy deeper, more fulfilling experiences. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Stephanie Deni

Stephanie is a Women’s Empowerment Coach, a certified Angel Intuitive Healer, a certified Reiki Master practitioner.

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