Sophie Martin

You learn to fight clean, and to separate the things you are actually angry about versus the things you know will hurt them the most.

So often, it’s just a reflex that we don’t even realize we’re engaging in.

You are going to forgive him right away, because just hearing his voice again is the only thing you were looking for.

Don’t call that loser. Don’t pick up when he calls you. Don’t text him “thinking about you” when you’re drunk at two in the morning.

Work on being compassionate towards other women who have lived different lives than you and have made different choices.

Only judge a woman’s personal and sexual history if you hold yourself — and every other human — to those same standards, and know that they are only your own, and not objective.

How much the two of you are respectively still going out and drinking, and how much your social life looks like it did when you were in college, are going to make a big impact on your relationship.

4. When they don’t call you back, it tortures you.

Being in love is a full-time job, and a lot of other parts of your life are going to have to take a big hit in terms of time commitment in order to accomodate it.

The comfort with your appearance to be naked, makeup-free, and completely casual without feeling like you want to peel your skin off every time your significant other sees you in your natural state.

People think about their exes in bed sometimes, including with you. Including about that ex you are really threatened by and worry that they might still have feelings for.

We often leave relationships wondering if we were ever really loved at all, and it’s a terrible feeling. You can stop that kind of pain in your own relationships if you want to.