At this moment, I finally could say to myself that I’m genuinely happy with my life and this kind of feeling is the biggest achievement for me so far. Similar to you, I’ve been through a lot of struggles and battles in life and being happy with life has nothing to do with the absence of struggles.
My life is still full of shit, challenges, setbacks, and changes; but I’m truly happy at the same time. This contradiction was confusing for me at first, but I could make sense all of it once I traced back to what I’ve done for these past months. This time, I won’t tell you about being grateful even though it is one of the keys to making you happy.
As I traced back, I realized that I could be this happy about my life because I left the things which weren’t meant to be mine and be mindfully let it all go the way it supposed to be.
A few months ago, I was disappointed by life many times. I was being rejected by some opportunities which I have dreamed of for so long, I couldn’t fit in a job environment which I thought ideal, and I was being left by some of my loved ones because we simply grew apart.
I was depressed, confused, and my faith in life was nowhere to be seen. I tried to fix everything and pull myself together, but life didn’t get any better. Until one moment, I decided to stop.
If life was not giving me the things which I’ve put my best effort into, then those things weren’t meant to be mine; maybe, I deserve better than all of those things that were supposed to be gone.
I started to let my life unfold by itself. It wasn’t easy at first, but I began to lower my expectations toward life as I tried my best to accept the reality and the disappointments as well.
I knew I was broken here and there, but I’ve decided to make some huge decisions all at once; I quit my job and left someone whom I loved the most, simply because he was emotionally abusing my well-being. At that moment, I was breaking the cycle, which made me suffer, and it became one of the lowest points in my life. It was difficult to stand tall once again, but surprisingly, I did.
After that difficult turning point, I started to cut some toxic people out of my life and I started to pursue the things which I really love instead of following those society success standards. Slowly but surely, I tried to open myself to the things which life has to offer without me forcing it to happen.
Surprisingly, I now have a job in a company that gives me the freedom to do what I love, I meet countless inspiring and generous people along the way, and I found someone new to love again.
You see, sometimes when you try to let everything happen the way it is, the universe will show you the best way. Most of the time, we are too obsessed with getting the things that we once thought were ideal and good for us, while actually, maybe all of those things are bad for our lives.
Forcing the things that were never meant to be yours will only make you hurt. You need to have faith that every loss will lead you to other things that are better for you. Not to mention that you don’t have to be worried about those who left you behind because those who truly love you will always stay without being asked.
At the end of the day, you need to always remember that what’s meant to be yours will never pass you by.