Life is chaotic sometimes. Just as you think everything is going swimmingly, something happens that sends you out of whack. It makes you a little bit adrift and this unsettling feeling is hard to shake. Whether it’s losing your job, your SO, or even if your favorite coffee shop closes down (yes, this would suck for me), it’s important to take a step back, breathe and surrender.
I always get into a funk when my life goes off balance. Sometimes I feel like I’ve taken one step forwards and two steps back. That’s when I stop and realise,
It’s okay to feel behind, it’s okay not to be okay, but at the same time it’s important to pick yourself up. I give myself 10 emotional minutes in a day if I need it, then I get up and remind myself that I am a gangster (with a matcha latte and a yoga mat).
We want to control everything around us, the situations and the people, but you’ve got to remember that you can’t control every aspect of your life. Don’t waste your energy into things you can’t control. Instead, use that energy to get yourself closer to those goals and being the best version of yourself.
Trust in life and trust in yourself. Trust that where you are at in your life at the moment is the right thing and the thing you need most. Don’t compare your life to others, everyone is on an individual journey and is on a completely different path and scrolling through your feed on social media isn’t going to make you feel better if you think everyone is ahead of you. Life isn’t a race so slow down.
Learn from the struggles, falls, heartache, heartbreak, loss, and endings. Because when something ends, a new thing begins. Learn from the people who have come into your life and left, learn from the people who are still here, learn from your experiences – good and bad, and most of all learn from yourself.
We all have goals that we one day want to achieve, but in the meantime celebrate your small wins and keep yourself motivated. Focusing on just the big goal can be daunting at times when you think you’re not getting closer to it, so look at each step as a tick in the box, getting you that much closer to your goals and go and have that glass of wine and celebrate (any excuse for a tipple).
Be grateful for everything in your life. Acknowledge the good – no matter how small. You woke up this morning and have another chance at life, you have great friends and family, you have a roof over your head – whatever it is, be grateful.
Remember, “life is amazing, then awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living, heart-breaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life and it’s breathtakingly beautiful.”