You Deserve Love, Right Now, Just As You Are

God and Man

There is this idea that has been reiterated to me a few times by my friends, especially those of them who have been through abusive relationships, and that is that for some reason, they believe the person they are just now, the person who I know to be exceptional and wonderful, needs to change somehow to be more worthy of love. At their lowest moments, they have told me this, in a number of ways:

“I wasn’t worth it, thats why it didn’t last.”
“I wasn’t what they needed, and I should have changed myself to be what they wanted.”
“I don’t deserve to be loved this way, all broken.”
“I should have been better and maybe he/she wouldn’t have treated me this way.”
“I was too difficult to love.”

That last one always breaks my heart because I know that feeling. That feeling of thinking you are too difficult to be loved in any way. The truth is, you deserve to be loved. Even now, with all of your flaws. However difficult you think you are, there is someone out there who will love you.

They will hold your hand through your anxiety. They will be there for you even on your worst, angriest days. They will allow you to grow and evolve in the way you need. And even when you make mistakes, they will take the time to understand you and forgive you.

Love is not a thing that needs to be earned by changing yourself from the person you are. You can better yourself, but never ever think you need to better yourself for anyone other than yourself. Those kind of changes never last.

This is the kind of love you deserve. This is the kind of love you need. No one is too difficult to love when they have love in their hearts to give to others. Please don’t believe whoever told you that you will never find the love you need, not even yourself. Don’t tell yourself that changing who you are will get you the love you need. Because this you, all raw, all broken is still beautiful, is incredibly wonderful to someone.

Believe in yourself. You are not too difficult to love.

And you deserve love. Just like this. Just as you are. TC mark

Nikita Gill

Nikita is the author of Your Soul Is A River, a book about healing and becoming whole again.

Your Soul Is A River

“Love a soft person. The ones who are positive, even in the worst of circumstances. Someone whose strength is not in bravado, but in their quiet. Someone who is strong for others because that is what is needed in that moment. Someone who is the moon that soothes instead of the sun that burns. Someone who sees the very best in people even when you think they aren’t worth it. The kind of person who always wants to do the best for those they love.”
—Excerpt from Your Soul Is A River, by Nikita Gill

“I bought this on a whim to read as I was resting for the night, and I do not regret it one bit! Everything about the poetry in this book is amazing, heart breaking, and soul searching. It will lift your spirits on your darkest days. I want to thank the author so much for writing this, as it’s something I will be rereading a lot! Always remember, everything about you is important. You matter.” —McKayla

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