This Is The Kind Of Guy That Will Make A Guarded Girl Finally Fall In Love

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She’s guarded because she’s never had “love” that didn’t end in heartbreak. She knows what it feels like to fall for the wrong person. She knows what it feels like to fall at the wrong time. She knows what it’s like to get it wrong, to get it all wrong, and she closes herself off more and more each time it happens.

She’s guarded because she’s been told, “I’m not looking for something serious.” She’s guarded because no matter how often she’s heard that, she thinks it’s her fault every time. She’s been told that she deserves better. Sometimes she believes it. Other times she doesn’t. She’s heard that “he isn’t worth her tears,” but that doesn’t stop her from crying. She’s guarded because she doesn’t trust that love can happen without there being hurt, and she continues to be guarded until she meets the one who shows her differently.

The kind of guy to make the guarded girl finally fall in love, and really fall in love, shows her love, instead of just saying it. He doesn’t say he’ll text her only to make her wait three days before he actually does. He doesn’t say, “let’s do this again sometime,” disappear for two months, and reach out with a “Hey stranger.” He doesn’t play the games she already knows the rules to.

The kind of guy to make the guarded girl finally fall in love feels safe, and she hates that at first, because she’s so used to falling for people who make her feel daring, like she’s taking an adventurous risk by giving them a chance. And the guy who makes the guarded girl fall in love isn’t risky. She doesn’t fall for him with caution like she has with everyone else. She just kind of falls, and she feels strangely comfortable while doing so.

The kind of guy to make the guarded girl finally fall in love makes her feel comfort like she’s never felt it before, and comfort doesn’t feel so boring when she feels it with him. Because this comfort is what slowly makes those walls she’s tried so hard to keep up, finally come down. And she doesn’t feel rushed while it’s happening, because he doesn’t make her feel that way. He doesn’t care that she takes her time, he doesn’t care that her fragile heart causes her to take things slowly. He let’s her take as much time as she needs because he knows he’s not going to do the one thing she’s afraid he will. He’s not going to leave, and he knows this, but he wants her to know it too.

He wants her to know that she can trust him. He wants her to know that unlike the other guys, he’ll be there. Unlike the other guys, he’ll show up, he’ll care, and he’ll love.

The kind of guy to make the guarded girl finally fall in love doesn’t try to break through her walls, he lets her bring them down all on her own. She lets him in, and she does it because she knows he’s different. She knows he won’t hurt her like the last one did. She knows he won’t show her the artificial kind of love she’s felt one too many times. She knows his love is real, and that’s why she finally feels safe enough to fall. TC mark

Nicole Tarkoff

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