The Break-Up (2006) is a romantic dramedy that follows Brooke (Jennifer Aniston) and Gary (Vince Vaughn) as they navigate the end of their two-year relationship. The couple meets their demise during a blow-out fight and it is this scene that perfectly captures why the bare minimum will never be enough.

After hosting a dinner party at their condo in downtown Chicago, Gary is playing video games on the couch. An exhausted Brooke walks into the living room, requesting Gary’s help cleaning up the dishes. Gary, avoiding eye contact, continues playing his video games, insisting that they straighten up the kitchen in the morning because of how tired he is after work. (For more context, Brooke had cleaned the entire apartment prior to the party as well as prepared the whole meal, all after a long day of working at an art gallery.)

“Come on, Gary. You know I don’t like waking up to a dirty kitchen,” Brooke says, growing more and more irritated.

“Who cares?” scoffs Gary.

“I care!” Brooke shouts back.

“Fine, I’ll help you do the damn dishes,” Gary huffs, rolling his eyes and tossing his controller to get up to “help.”

“No, see? That’s not what I want,” Brooke responds in a defeated tone, walking away to start the dishes on her own.

This is a pivotal moment in the scene. It’s clear here that this has been an ongoing issue. Gary’s lack of consideration for Brooke and caring about what matters to her is made abundantly clear here.

Gary follows her into the kitchen and they begin arguing more. Gary expresses confusion as to why he’d want to ever do the dishes. Brooke continues on, pleading for Gary to understand her point-of-view.

“I want you to want to do the dishes,” an exasperated Brooke snaps at one point.

From there, things continue to escalate. Brooke mentions how she had asked Gary to grab 12 lemons on the way home from work for the dinner party and how he only picked up three. Gary rages on, saying he would have brought home 24 lemons if he knew it would have caused this much trouble.

“It’s not about the lemons!” Brooke yells.

“That’s all you’re talking about!” Gary snaps back.

Gary’s behavior is not only a prime example of weaponized incompetence but it also perfectly exhibits how a lack of sincere effort is what destroys what could have been a loving, healthy partnership. 

“I’m just saying it would be nice if you did things that I asked. It would be even nicer if you did things without me even having to ask you!” says Brooke.

The scene begins to come to an end with Brooke explaining how he never plans dates or does things she is interested in doing. Gary yells that he just wants to be left alone and that he’s sick of her nagging, to which responds by ending their relationship.

“I deserve somebody who gives a shit!” shouts Brooke as she storms away.

When you love someone, you show up for them, not just when it’s easy or beneficial to you. Because love isn’t about convenience. It’s about commitment. Trying over and over again. Consideration is everything, effort is essential, and the bare minimum will never be enough. Stop settling for it.

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