Guys have a reputation of being these isolated, cold creatures who shun compassion and lack sensitivity, yet I don’t know why. That’s a lie; I know exactly why. There are plenty of guys out there who give the lot of us a bad name — particularly those who lie and cheat. Ladies, you should be familiar with this in that there are the crop of girls who are “crazy,” for all intents and purposes, and make the lot of you look “crazy” to all guys. Because some of these guys have sullied our reputation as men, women are skeptical when we say things; they can’t decide whether or not we’re telling them the truth or just something we think they want to hear. Well, to help clarify any confusion for you, here are some examples of when you should definitely take a man at his word:
1. When He Tells You He Wants To Commit To You.
If you two are just casually seeing each other with no tight-bound strings and you’re not sure where he is at, you have two options: (a) ask him; or (B) wait it out. If you ask him and he wants you to be the only girl in his life, he’ll tell you. If you’re afraid to ask, eventually he’ll come out and say it… if that’s how he feels. Many times — not all — when he says, “I’m just not looking for a relationship right now,” he means, “I don’t want to be in a relationship… with you.”
2. When He Tells You He Wants You To Meet His Family.
I keep going back and forth as to whether or not “meeting the family” is a big deal, but one thing is for certain — if he’s inviting you, he wants you there. Odds are, he’s probably not bringing a plethora of women around, so if he’s going to introduce you to that side of his life, it’s because he wants to. I don’t think it should a big deal in terms of “Oh my God, we’re like getting married now,” but it is a significant step. You’ll likely be in a committed relationship by this point, so this is just another way of solidifying it.
3. When He Tells You He’s Scared.
Most guys don’t like admitting when they are afraid of something. Most guys will go to such lengths as to lie about being afraid of anything at all, just to exude the macho-man persona he’s “supposed” to have. This is all the more reason to believe him when he says he is afraid of something — be it something physical (like rollercoasters, animals, etc.) or something emotional (trusting someone, love, etc.).