What’s Holding You Back From Finding Real Love, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

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Aries: Your Impulsivity

Love sounds like a beautiful idea to you; in fact, your curious nature causes your mind to wander, imagining what it could be like or who you’ll eventually end up with. You want to fall in love. Your problem? You’re too impatient to really commit. When you meet someone good, you’re always wondering if there’s someone better, or if you’re just settling. You don’t give people a chance to really show you who they are, or better yet, for you to reveal your deepest self to them. Your energy and impulsivity ruin the chance for you to find pure, long-lasting love.

Taurus: Your Hesitance

You’ve always been careful, sometimes to a fault. You’re the type of person who falls slowly, methodically, and takes his/her time letting people in. This isn’t a bad thing, but when you’re way too cautious and stubborn about truly allowing yourself to feel, it drives the people who truly care about you away. What’s holding you back from finding real love is your hesitance; instead of believing wholeheartedly in the possibility of a connection with someone, you shy away.

Gemini: Your Busyness

You’re a social person. You like being the center of attention, you like talking, you like having a bunch of things to do and people to be around. There’s no shame in that. But sometimes your longing for stimulation can hinder your love life. When you’re always searching for the next thing, always busying yourself with to-do lists or obligations or events, you’re prioritizing all of that over truly getting to know someone. Being an adventurous, people-person is a good thing, especially when it comes to forming relationships, but your constantly-filled schedule is getting in the way of forming a deep, committed bond.

Cancer: Your Need For Security

When it comes down to it, you’re an extremely protective person. You would give your life for the people around you. You would do anything in your power to stand by, or be there for someone when they need you. These are all positives, but sometimes your dedication and protective nature can hinder you from taking chances. Especially on new people. You have a need for security, similar to the security you’ve created and formed with the people close to you. But what you don’t realize is that you must be willing to let go of some of that security to allow a new person in. To find real love, you must be willing to take steps forward without that sense of peace you’re so often surrounded by.

Leo: Your Pride

You have a good head on your shoulders. You know what you want and you know how to get it, and more often than not, you do so without help. Because of your self-sufficient nature, though, you sometimes get a big head when it comes to relationships, thinking you either don’t need anyone, or the opposite, craving someone to the point that it becomes selfish. What’s truly holding you back from finding real love is your pride. When you let go of your need to be in control or the center of your universe, you allow someone else to come into focus. Someone you might have otherwise missed.

Virgo: Your Overthinking

From the outside you’re cool and collected, but underneath the surface your mind is running wild. Don’t worry, you’re not the only one. And overthinking isn’t necessarily a bad thing, only bad when it starts to control your life and decisions. (Which, by the way, it totally is.) You are a great listener, a deep thinker, and a strong-but-silent soul. You have the ability to find real love, but what you must first do is quiet the voices in your head. Don’t obsess over what you don’t know or can’t change—instead, let go and fall.

Libra: Your Indecision

You are the ultimate people-pleaser: always trying to make everyone happy, always trying to do the right thing and create harmony around you. When it comes to relationships, though, this can be your downfall. Instead of doing what you want or expressing how you feel, you often go chameleon—changing/adapting to fit the situation you’re in or person you’re with. You’re a very selfless person, but what’s truly holding you back from finding real love is your indecision. If you want to find something real, you can’t keep changing yourself to be what someone else wants, or changing your mind because you’re scared. Sometimes you have to be true to what you really desire, and take a step forward.

Scorpio: Your Independence

You like to be alone and are often the best version of yourself when you’re doing things solo. Whether you’ve been single for a while, or just used to marching to the beat of your own drum, you are extremely self-aware, sometimes to the point that you disregard relationships as less important than focusing on yourself. But, underneath it all, you crave love. And to find that real love, you must be willing to share your life with someone. Not compromise yourself or your desires for them, but willingly show them who you are and what’s important to you.

Sagittarius: Your Flightiness

You are adventurous, and that’s an understatement. Whether that’s trying new things, exploring new hobbies, traveling to new places, or just questioning the world around you, your creative spirit doesn’t like falling into routine. And that’s how you’ve come to view relationships—as restrictions rather than blessings. What’s truly holding you back from finding real love is your perspective on it, and your flightiness when it comes to making any sort of commitment. To really let someone in, you have to understand that love doesn’t have to hold you back. And you don’t need to (and shouldn’t) run at the first sign of trouble.

Capricorn: Your Seriousness

You’ve always lived your life on the serious side—seeing the big picture, caring about the future, having a plan. When it comes to relationships you’re obviously no different, wanting to know where something is headed as it begins, and only looking for someone whom you share values and goals with. These are good things, especially when it comes to long-term commitments, but what’s holding you back from finding real love is the fact that you’re too damn serious that you’re not giving anyone a chance. People are imperfect, and when you let go of this desire to find an ‘ideal’ or a person who is everything you want and need, you’ll realize that relationships are about falling, making mistakes, learning yourself and another person, and growing together. Not about having everything all figured out from the start, or planning a future when you’re not quite there yet. Lighten up.

Aquarius: Your Generosity

Generosity is something that exists in the core of your being; you are constantly giving to others, putting them first, and sharing whatever you can with people who need it. This is the most beautiful thing about you, but sometimes you’re so generous that you give until there’s nothing left. You are selfless until it sucks you dry, until you’re emotionless and exhausted and not ready to even look at a partner, let alone welcome them in. What’s truly holding you back from finding real love is your inability to say no. Instead of focusing on yourself and what you need, you’re always giving—and this creates distance between you and finding a healthy partner and connection.

Pisces: Your Imagination

You’re a daydreamer, a deep-thinker, a worrywart. You often imagine scenarios with a future significant other, or romanticize situations and conversations in your head until they’re so far from the truth you can hardly remember what really happened. Though you’re an emotional and empathetic person, you’re ruining your chance to find real love by always thinking about what it could potentially be like, rather than living and experiencing it in the moment. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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