Why Your Forever Person Won’t Let You In, Based On Their Zodiac Sign

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March 21 – April 20

Your Aries is bright and impulsive, often surprising you with random bursts of energy or a sudden desire to know you more. But just when you think you have them figured out, they start to distance. See, your Aries is afraid to let you in for fear of losing interest. Getting to know you has been a challenge, and an Aries loves a challenge. Now they’re simply afraid that in letting you in, the spark between the two of you will fade.


April 21 – May 21

Your Taurus is peaceful, trustworthy, and stable. The relationship between the two of you is constant and reassuring, and yet, there’s still a little something holding them back from truly letting you in. This is because your Taurus, more than anything else, fears commitment. Though they may be totally into you, underneath the calm exterior is a nervousness. Letting you in means they could end up empty. And they’re very hesitant to fall victim to heartbreak again.


May 22 – June 21

Your Gemini is the bold one of the relationship, the one who loves to be busy, connected to others, and the center of attention. Though your Gemini often glows in your presence, it’s no secret that there’s a distance, even when it’s just the two of you. See, they love adventure, social stimulation, and energy. And you, of course. But what’s keeping them from totally letting you in is their secret fear that your relationship will fall stagnant and they’ll get bored. They want to shy slightly away from you, just so the interest is still there on both ends.


June 22 – July 22

Your Cancer wants to let you in, without a doubt. They are totally into you, and whether you notice or not, they’re constantly fighting an inner battle between being too far or too close from you. See, this sign is deeply protective and nurturing. Everything they do is with love, but sometimes this can lead them to being a bit too clingy. Your Cancer wants you to get to know who they really are, but at the same time, they’re scared that when they let you in, they’ll become too dependent and you’ll start to lose the attraction. Bottom line, they don’t want to be too much, so they’re holding you at arm’s length.


July 23 – August 22

Your Leo is filled with the desire to love you and make these grand gestures towards you, just to show you the depth of their affection. With a Leo, it’s all about the big picture. There’s no doubt that they’ve imagined a future with you, or that they’re thinking far down the line about your relationship. However, what’s holding them back from truly letting you in is their own boldness. See, they want to only show you the best side of them, so they’re keeping parts hidden. They don’t want you to think of them as any less, so they’re holding out on showing you who they really are.


August 23 – September 22

Your Virgo is a deep-thinker, detail-oriented and strong, even in their silence. It’s no doubt that they are into you and the relationship, but what’s keeping them from letting you in is their own mind. They’re often lost in thought, preferring isolation to just process what’s going on around them and regaining their sense of self. It’s not that they don’t genuinely care for you—they totally do! They’re just distant from you because they’re letting their head make decisions before their heart.


September 23 – October 22

Your Libra craves balance, order, and harmony. That’s why the most important aspect of your relationship is trust—knowing that you are there for each other, and there to stay. Your Libra is very selfless, but when it comes to letting you in, there’s a bit of a hesitation. See, they’re a tad indecisive when it comes to making decisions, and you are no exception. It’s not that they don’t completely love you, rather, it’s a fear that in letting you in fully there will be an imbalance—suddenly you’ll see everything, the good and the bad, and they’re just not sure if they want you to know their imperfections yet.


October 23 – November 21

Your Scorpio is stubborn and self-aware, that’s why it’s no surprise that what’s holding them back from letting you in is their need for independence. It’s not that they don’t care for you, because they do, so deeply. But when it comes to letting you in, they get a bit hard-headed, preferring there to be a distance between who they are as individuals and who they are in a relationship with you.


November 22 – December 21

Your Sagittarius brings out the adventurer in you. No matter where you are, or what the two of you are doing, they are able to make something fun happen with their curious, social nature. You love your relationship, and they do too—but what’s holding them back from really letting you in is their fear of routine. See, they care about you, but they’re secretly worried that in letting you really in, they’ll start to get comfortable and fall into a steady, monotonous existence with you. They just aren’t ready, or willing to let go of their adventurous side, and they fear that bringing you closer might make the two of you want to settle down, rather than live life fully.


December 22 – January 20

Your Capricorn, since day one, has taken your relationship seriously. That’s why it came as a total surprise when you realized they were still holding back and not letting you fully in. You knew they were guarded from the start, but this is different. This isn’t as much about them as it is about you. See, as driven and logical and strong as your Capricorn is, what’s really holding them back is their perception of you. They are totally into the relationship, taking every kiss and conversation seriously, but they question whether you are. They’re unwilling to let you in until they’re sure, one hundred percent, that you’re in just as deep.


January 21 – February 19

Your Aquarius is so generous, always giving, always serving, always loving those around them and sharing pieces of their heart. It seems like they’re so willing to open up, to let others in, but when it comes to you, there’s a bit of a barrier. The only reason for this is your Aquarius’ fear of becoming too dependent. See, they hate being alone and love the connections they have with the people around them—the fear, when it comes to you, is revolving their entire world around one person. They want to show you how deeply they care, but don’t want to totally lose themselves in you.


February 20 – March 20

Your Pisces is the ultimate feeler—taking every single emotion, moment, touch, kiss, word, etc. to heart and processing it. They are passionate and empathetic, but often lost in their own thoughts, which is why, no matter how deeply they feel towards you, their minds hold them back from letting you truly in. See, your Pisces can be a worrier, over-analyzing every little thing and stressing over moments that haven’t even happened yet. They love you with everything they have; yet, when it comes to pulling you closer, they’re held back by the fear that you’re not really into them. Before they can truly open their heart to you, they need to be reassured that you care. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Marisa Donnelly is a poet and author of the book, Somewhere on a Highway, available here.

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Marisa Donnelly

Marisa is a writer, poet, & editor. She is the author of Somewhere On A Highway, a poetry collection on self-discovery, growth, love, loss and the challenges of becoming.

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