There’s More To Love Than Fun


When I think of love, I think of laughter. I think of thousands of things two people can do together—the dates, the places to travel to, even the mundane, everyday things that suddenly become new and exciting when you have someone by your side.

When I think of love, I think of a lifetime of adventure, of two people discovering what makes them happy, hand-in-hand.

When I think of love, I think of fun, of silliness, of finding someone who will forever be your soulmate, through good and bad. Someone who keeps a smile on your face, even on your most painful days.

I want someone who will know how to have fun with me, who will be comfortable enough around me to be his total self, to be goofy, to laugh at the little things and enjoy life like no one’s watching.

But there’s more to love than fun.

Yes, I want a man who will celebrate life with me, but I also want a man who’s serious. Serious about love, serious about me.

I want a man who’s going to be committed, who promises to not only love and laugh with me, but to be loyal to me, as I will be to him. I want a man that cares for me because he sees us going somewhere, not because this is convenient in the moment. Not just because being in love is fun.

I want a love with a purpose—a love that matters, a love that means something, a love that’s moving in a direction—not just a love that’s enjoyable but temporary.

I want a love that’s secure through every trial, that will be there even when challenges arise and especially when things get tough. I want a man who won’t walk away when I really need him because I promise I’ll stand by his side when he needs me.

I want someone who loves me through the happy and the hard times.

I want someone to love me because they can’t imagine a life without me in it. Not because dating me is simply a good time.

I want to mean something.

I want a love that lasts. A love that finds reasons to celebrate each other and life every single day. A love where we continually learn about each other, grow each other, build each other up.

To me, love is about finding someone that you can have fun with (and tolerate 😜) spending the rest of your life with. Someone who will definitely drive you crazy, but someone you can’t imagine living without.

I want that. I want someone who’s going to make me angry, make me passionate, make me laugh. Someone that I can enjoy life with, but someone that’s in it for the long haul. Someone who promises everything I promise—to be there not only when the going’s easy, but when it counts. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Marisa Donnelly

Marisa is a writer, poet, & editor. She is the author of Somewhere On A Highway, a poetry collection on self-discovery, growth, love, loss and the challenges of becoming.

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