You break your heart by chasing after love. You’re headstrong and energetic, determined to go after what you want with passion and zeal. Your mantra in life is to never take no for an answer. While this has served you well in other aspects of your life, you must accept that in relationships, this will only backfire on you. For you must understand that love is the one thing you can’t force. There must come a time for you to let go and trust of where it is going. Your inability to lose control and step back will cause you to chase after lovers unworthy of your big, generous heart.
You break your own heart by being afraid of love. Nothing about you leaves things to chance, especially when it comes to your heart. You need to be able to trust someone first and build a strong foundation of certainty instead of leaving this budding romance to bloom itself. So you build your walls up high and lock your heart tightly to protect yourself from getting hurt. The cautious side of you tries to protect you in the short-term, but subsequently, this only makes you more guarded and terrified of letting anyone into your life and your heart. Even in your lowest point, please hold onto the faith that love is always worth the risk.
You break your own heart by not knowing what you want. Sure you’re a great conversationalist, a social butterfly, and the center of attention. You can talk endlessly with anybody, yet when it comes to serious matter or your own emotions, you seem to shut down completely. This is simply because you’re confused over your own feelings and you have a difficult time trying to make sense of them. You may find yourself holding back from committing completely to your relationship, simply because you’re waiting for someone better to come along. To find the love you deserve, you have to spend some time alone first, stay single, and understand yourself inside and out before you’ll be truly ready.
You break your own your heart by refusing to let go of the past. Living in the present moment is something you always struggle with. You let life pass you by, as you’re convinced that the best part of your life is over. You can go out on a perfect date and meet the most compatible partner, yet you continue to stay untouched and remain emotionally unavailable. In the presence of another, you can only think of your ex and the way he/she made you feel. You have to make the conscious effort to move on from the past and embrace the present. Only then, can you find the love that you deserve.
You break your own heart by putting on a strong front. On the surface, you look like you have it all. Fabulous hair, the picture-perfect Instagram feed, the adoring lover, and the put-together life. Yet nobody knows how deeply you’re hurting inside. When things go south, your first reaction is to conceal your tears and hide your depression under your sunny exterior and your cheerful bright smile. You need to put your pride aside and learn to trust your partner with your feelings. You have to be comfortable in being vulnerable around them so that you can love without holding yourself back.
You break your own heart by overthinking. You drive yourself crazy with your overactive mind, worrying over what happened and things that haven’t even happened yet. When you’re submerged in your own insecurities, you become overly harsh and critical of your partner’s flaws and demand that they change for their own good. The truth is that it is your own insecurities that are causing you to act the way you do and it has nothing to do with your partner or your relationship. When problems arise and everything gets chaotic, always remember to inhale and exhale and take things easy. For you’re your own worst enemy and more often than not, the situation is not as bad as you think it is.
You break your own heart by settling in your relationship. Being a romantic sign is both your blessing and your curse. Opening your heart is second nature to you and you love so deeply, and even without reciprocation, you’re able to melt the coldest of heart. However, there are times when you get so carried away with the idea of love that you forget that it’s not love. You want to be with someone so badly that you decide to settle, just so you won’t have to be alone. But the minute that you begin to reinforce the belief that you need a significant other so that your life is shining with fulfillment and happiness, you start on your road to destruction by clinging onto a relationship not meant for you.
You break your own heart by holding onto negativity. Everything about love is outside of your comfort zone. You find it hard to trust, difficult to open up, and impossible to believe that someone would accept you and love you for you. In the thick of troubles, your emotions get erratic and volatile as you become deeply immersed in yourself, convinced that no one can understand you. This causes you to jump to conclusions and assume the worst in every situation and in everyone. Be careful that the tighter you try to control your feelings, the higher chance you’ll get consumed by the flames of resentment that brew inside you.
You break your own heart by running away. Born an adventurer, the world is your oyster and you’ll remain this way till you draw your last breath. Freedom is important to you; however, there is a problem if you decided to live only in the moment and run away at the first sign of trouble. Forever an optimist, you often only see the bright side and you prefer to keep things casual and light-hearted in dating and relationships. You have to understand that love doesn’t just comprise of the rosy pictures, the heart pounding moments, or the kisses that send tingles down your spine. You have to embrace the good, the bad, and the in-between.
You break your own heart by neglecting your feelings. You put everything and anything above how you truly feel. You have excuses from how you’re too busy to date, to your sky-high expectations for your ideal person. Even when someone catches your attention, you’ll come up with many reasons why it won’t work out. You aren’t truthful in your feelings and you keep your heart in an impenetrable fortress, preferring to stay single than leave your comfort zone. You have to accept that there is no way you’ll ever be one hundred percent ready. In fact, sometimes, you just have to take the leap of faith and trust your feeling that everything will work out the way it’s supposed to be.
You break your own heart by thinking you don’t need love. You’re the sign that embodies independence and craves freedom, as if your life depended on it. Quirky and unpredictable, you don’t conform to any expectations and you make your own rules. You come and go as you please, and your priority is only in yourself. You thrive best when you’re alone as you find it difficult to trust another and talk about deeper topics. While it is great to be so comfortable in your own skin and enjoy solitude, you chase away your many chances at love simply by believing that you have no need for anyone else. Even when you’re in a committed relationship, you remain aloof and difficult to understand.
You break your own heart by losing yourself. You breathe and live love, and it is an understatement that you feel the most fulfilled and happy when you’re in a relationship. When single, you feel like a fish out of water, as though you need a relationship to be complete. Often in your eagerness to please, your zest to be loved, and your longing to be with someone, you lose sight of the person you are. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to share your life with a significant other, you often forget the most important person in your life and your quest to find love is you.