It’s so easy to be consumed with the anxiety of feeling like you are lacking direction. As humans, we want to have answers, because answers bring security and survival. Answers and plans make us feel safe. We don’t like to just not know. We don’t like being in limbo. When we are young, we think age brings the automatic ability to have everything figured out, when in reality it just brings even more things to figure out and it’s more expensive.
We think that ease comes with accomplishment, that happiness is directly connected to our success, and that one day we will have reached a point where we can finally feel like we can just breathe.
I am here to tell you to breathe. This is your reminder that it’s okay to not have it all figured out right now. It’s okay to change your mind, to pick your path and suddenly want to detour. It’s okay to actually detour. It’s okay to not know where you want to go and who you want for your company. It’s okay to try something once and decide it’s not for you as many times as you need to. It’s okay to forgive yourself over and over again over for absolutely everything. It’s okay to give yourself a break, to call in sick, to decide something new for yourself, to give yourself more rest.
The only place you actually need to be right now is exactly where you are. In order to grow and evolve, you need to be able to be there when it happens, to move with it, and that means you must be right here, right now. Realize that the pressure you put on yourself is not synonymous with your success or happiness. We all have our own timeline. We don’t actually have to be anywhere at any specific time.
It’s okay to not be where you think you should be but instead learn how to be okay with exactly where you are. There is no destination, no end result, no time where you will find yourself knowing all of the things you are desperate to know.
Learn as you go. Take the time you need to do the things you need. Learn how to sit. Find acceptance in the way the things are right now and make a home there. Know your joy well enough to be able to create it every single day, despite how much else you know. That’s what matters. Life isn’t about having everything figured out, it’s about learning how to be at peace when you don’t. It’s okay to not have it all figured out right now. Everything is right on time—it always is.