You’re Allowed To Let Them Go

woman looking back
God & Man

You’re allowed to let him or her go. You’re allowed to block them. To throw away the pictures that make you wince in remembrance that they are gone. You’re allowed to learn how to let them go. Even when it’s painful.

You owe them nothing anymore. You don’t have to be their best friend or even acquaintance. You don’t have to follow them on social media anymore. You don’t have to do anything. 

You can untag the pictures now. You can hit that unfollow button. You don’t have to communicate with them ever again, if you don’t want to. Because honestly, it’ll probably hurt you more in the long run if you keep in contact. It will probably cause you even more pain.

There’s no obligation for you to give them anything now. They called it quits. It’s over. You broke up. The love has expired. It doesn’t need to come back from the dead.

You don’t have to talk to them when they call your phone begging for you back. It doesn’t mean you’re cold. It doesn’t mean you’re a terrible person. It doesn’t mean you hate them. It just means that finally you have decided that you need to stick up for yourself. You need to do what’s best for you. You need to do what is best for your mental health and for your sanity.

They are allowed to be angry. They are allowed to think whatever they want. But that doesn’t mean that you need to stoop to their level. You don’t have to reach out anymore. You don’t have to reply. You don’t even have to see their face ever again.

You’re allowed to do whatever it takes for your heart to heal. And you’re allowed to not say sorry for that.

You’re allowed to become your own best friend. To not answer to anyone who thinks so little of you. To stop communication with someone who you used to love. To stop reaching out to someone who hurt you so badly.

It’s okay. You’re allowed to heal and to take the time you need. It’s okay. You need to do what is best for you. You need to do everything in your power to get him over this person who broke you. You need to do everything in your power to move on. To let go of the pain and of all the memories that haunt you in your dreams.

Don’t ever apologize for it. For being kind to yourself. Don’t ever say sorry for being good to yourself. Don’t treat yourself like you’re in second place. And don’t put somebody else before you, ever.

And if your ex gets mad or angry or furious, who the hell cares?

They are an ex for a reason right?

So allow yourself to let them go. To wish them farewell. To say goodbye. To cut off communication. Anything that will help heal your hurting and burning heart. And don’t ever apologize for loving yourself. Don’t ever apologizing for treating yourself in a way that they never did. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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