How To Ruin Your Relationship (Without Even Noticing That You Are)

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1. You tell little white lies.

When you find yourself telling tiny lies to your partner, you are creating distance from each other without even realizing it. It could be anything as simple as lying about what time you get off from work, or where you’re going to meet a friend. But, when it comes down to it, you would never lie to someone you adore.

2. You grow too comfortable.

You don’t try anymore. You don’t try to learn more about your partner, or to grow with them as a couple. You’ve stopped giving a crap about what you look like and what you say or do. You give zero energy to your relationship because you’ve grown bored.

3. You gossip about your partner.

You find yourself gabbing to all your friends about your partner (and not in a good light). You complain about your relationship more than you even know, and all your friends are wondering why you’re even with this person because all you see is their flaws.

4. You expect too much.

You expect them to agree with you no matter what. You expect your partner to go along with everything and to just follow your plans. You get easily fed up when they don’t do or say what you think they should. You expect perfection, but this is reality, not a fairytale.

5. You make excuses to not have sex.

Lately, you’ve turned down sex. You feel grossed out by every little thing your partner does and you can’t imagine feeling turned on by them anymore. You always make the excuse that you’re too tired or you’re busy with work. And when you have sex, you don’t enjoy it, and if you do, you have to work really hard at it.

6. You make everything about you.

You make everything about your plans, abut your future, and about whats good for you. You don’t listen to your relationships needs or your partners needs. You take and take more than you give to your significant other. You have become selfish in all the wrong ways.

7. You obsess over texts.

If they don’t text you back instantly, you become paranoid and angry. You become so consumed with this, that your anxiety goes on full blast. If they miss your call a date night, you flip out because you feel like they aren’t making you a priority.

8. You lash out.

You have found yourself being annoyed at every little detail about this person. You used to love his dimples and his too loud laugh. Now, you pick at his every flaw and find yourself resenting your partner instead.

9. You act too clingy.

You become way too clingy, always begging for your partner to stay the night and to never leave. You text them too much during the work day and always are checking up on your partner to see what you are doing. You have no idea what ‘space’ means in this relationship.

10. You choose other people over them.

You hang out with your friends more than you do your partner. You choose your family over them too. You would rather do anything else, than hang out with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe you don’t even realize it, but the majority of time spent with your partner has lessened quite a bit. TC mark

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You can’t forgive yourself for falling
or believing all the lies.
You reread every text.
You relive every memory.
And it all starts making sense —
he never wanted love.
He only wanted attention.
He only wanted validation.

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