How To Actually Be Happy While Being Single

Girl happy because she's single
Eddie Kopp

Remind yourself that you don’t need another person to be happy. And maybe in the past it’s been what you thought you needed. Maybe it was your secret for happiness. For being able to feel content in life. But know that you don’t need to be in a relationship to live your best life.

Realize that you are enough. 

Sit with yourself. In your favorite place, where you feel safe. Where you feel most at peace. Just sit. Watch the people and crowds scurry past you. Listen to snippets of conversations and see yourself in other people. Sit with yourself. And learn how to be comfortable on your own.

Remind yourself that having a boyfriend or a girlfriend sitting next to you wouldn’t change your heart. It wouldn’t change the course of your life or put a magic spell on your future. Remind yourself that you don’t need that right now.

All you need is you.

Wake up from your quiet bed and take a moment to acknowledge this life. This life that you have in your hands. You can do anything. You can be anything you what to be. This life is yours. Not anyone else’s.

Greet the morning dew and smile, knowing that this day is yours. This day is yours to conquer and to enjoy and to drink up. You do not need someone else to kiss you and to love you and to hug you, when you have all that you need inside of your heart.

Tell yourself that even if you’re lonely, that it’s okay. It’s okay to fall. It’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to cry. It’s normal. Normal to feel this way because you have grown so accustomed to having someone else hold your hand along this journey.

But now realize that you can hold your own damn hand.

It’s not always going to be smooth sailing, being single. Being by yourself. Being alone. But you’re going to change, slowly but surely. And you’re going to grow stronger and more brilliant than you can even imagine.

And one day you’re going to wake up and not feel the void inside of your heart. And one day, you’re going to wake up and not miss the warm body that used to lay next to you.

One day, you’re going to wake up and appreciate all the space that you have to experience. And you’re going to appreciate and love yourself for all that you have done. For once in your life, you’re going to beam back at yourself in the mirror. Just for being you.

And you’re going to be so proud. Proud of not needing anyone else. Proud of glowing on your own. Proud of shining without anyone’s flashlight. You’re going to be transformed. And you’re going to eventually learn that your heart is allowed to be free. It’s allowed to be open.

You don’t have to trap it anymore. It’s okay to let it run free. To let it fly. Let yourself be ok with not loving anyone else, but yourself.  Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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