I’m a firm believer that everything good and bad that comes your way will ultimately teach you a lesson. Whether it be a lesson about yourself, or about what you want and don’t want in your next relationship, every person that walks into your life will teach you something valuable.
I’m also a firm believer that you can have more than one great love in your life. You might not picture it now, or imagine a world without the first love of your life, but trust me — life will move on without that person.
Every relationship that you enter into is going to show you what you don’t and do want in your next partner. It will show you what your deal breakers are, what your pet peeves are, what you love and hate about having a significant other, and most importantly that relationship will show you more about yourself as a human being and as a lover.
Just because your first or second great love ended, does not mean that your world is going to end. It does not mean that you will never find someone better. It’s just an opportunity to start clean. To start fresh.
An ending is just a new opportunity to love again.
I know you can’t see a life without this person. You can’t fathom a future without them. You want them back so badly, you feel like your heart is literally being ripped out by your heart strings.
You can’t see anything good about him or her being gone. But I promise you, if this relationship ended, it was supposed to happen. For a reason.
You may not believe me. You may be thinking I don’t know your life and that I don’t know anything about who you are or what you have been through. And it’s true, I don’t know anything about your relationship, and why or how it ended. But I do know one thing: and that’s that this ending was supposed to happen. And good will come from it. Maybe not tomorrow or a year from now. But I promise you, there will be a blessing that will come from this end.
This ending doesn’t have to define you. It doesn’t have to tear your life apart. It doesn’t have to make you lose hope for your future. You are still learning and growing. You are still blossoming and blooming. You will find your way, eventually with or without this person.
I know you loved him or her. I know you thought they were your forever person. That you were going to walk down the aisle towards them, or see them walk up the aisle towards you. But please, know that this ending was supposed to happen. It was supposed to happen to shape you. To ignite courage in your bones. To make you fight and grow and be braver than you were before.
Every ending that you have in your life is not a dead end street. It’s not a locked door. No, it’s a fresh door for you to open up and unlatch. It’s a new beginning for you. A new day. A new you.
You’ll always take a piece of this person with you wherever you go. You may never stop loving them and I promise you won’t forget them. But I hope you know that you were meant for greater things. I hope you know that this is a gift. A gift for you to not stay rooted firmly on the ground. It is a gift for you to spread your wings and go.
It’s a gift for you to be reborn. Without another person standing by your side.