1. Communication is infrequent.
You never know when this person is going to pop up back into your life and pretend like it’s no big deal. You rarely have a ‘real’ conversation with this person because they ghost you for a few days and out of the blue ask you how you are.
2. You’ve never been on a proper date together.
You’ve done the booty call, and the ‘Netflix and chill’ nights with this person. But you’ve never been asked out on an actual date with them. You’ve never even done happy hour with them.
3. You only see each other during the evening or night time.
If you think this person is going to ask you to hang out on the weekdays when the sun is out, forget about it. When you are only seeing them during the later hours of the day, I really doubt this relationship is heading towards the alter. This person should be proud to be seen with you, not the opposite!
4. You’ve never had ‘the talk’.
You’ve never had a serious talk about what you two want or don’t want from one another. Actually, you don’t really spend a lot of time talking at all!
5. Your friends don’t like him/her.
If your friends don’t like this person, you know something is off. Trust your friend’s insight look from the outside. If they tell you that the relationship isn’t going anywhere, believe them.
6. They have never met your family.
Haven’t met mom and dad yet? Haven’t met their mom and dad yet? This relationship probably isn’t getting more serious than having the label as a ‘casual fling’. If this person truly cared, they would want to get to know the people who raised you.
7. You don’t know a lot about them.
Red flag number one: When you don’t know much about this person. If they haven’t felt the need to share with you anything about their values, about who they are as a person, and about what their passions are, you should probably re download your Tinder sometime soon.
8. You get anxious when this person doesn’t text back.
Communication is already lacking with this person, but when you ask to hang out and they don’t reply for a week, you should start questioning the seriousness of this ‘relationship’.
9. You feel like you’re the only one trying to get to know them.
It’s one sided. You’re the only one trying and the only one making an actual effort. You do most of the talking and texting, and you do the work. They are less inclined to make an effort, because you put too much into it already.
10. You ask your friends how to change this person’s mind.
You’re constantly feeling anxious about where this relationship is going. You frequently find yourself asking friends and family for advice on how to speed up the relationship and take it to the next level. They usually respond by telling you that if it was going to be serious, it already would be.
11. You freak out when you realize you’re catching feelings.
You’re catching feelings and you’re the only one whose doing the catching. It’s obvious this person doesn’t want to be serious, but your heart went and had a mind of it’s own. Take my advice and walk away before you start falling even harder. It’s not worth it if this person doesn’t see your worth.