Here’s Why Career Driven Women Are Having Such A Hard Time Finding Love

Brooke Cagle
Brooke Cagle

1. People misunderstand you.

A lot of people misunderstand you. They think you are snobby and snooty and think way too highly of yourself. They see you as a career woman and nothing else. They look at your job title, and only view it in a negative light.

2. People assume you are too ‘conservative’.

When you tell people about your job and career and about how much of a workaholic you are, they immediately recoil. Some people find workaholics and successful women to be prudes and too conservative.

3. Work can suck your energy dry.

After work, you honestly don’t have the energy to date or go out. You spend so much time focusing all your energy on work, that you forget completely about trying to have a dating or social life.

4. People are intimidated by you.

As always, people are going to be intimidated by you and extremely jealous. They see your job title on Linkedin, and your pretty desk, and assume the worst. They don’t look at you as a genuine human being, they look at you as if you are from another planet.

5. We still live in a sexist world.

Unfortunately, it is still a very very sexist world that we live in. And it doesn’t seem to be getting any better. People will look at you and assume you’re a ‘bitch’, just because you are successful. They will ask you why you don’t smile enough and they will ask why you aren’t making them a sandwich in the kitchen. Honestly, this kind of behavior would make ANY woman want to give up on dating entirely.

6. You don’t have time to ‘play the field’.

The free time that you do have is spent with your loved ones, with your family, and with your friends. You don’t have time to go on Tinder date after Tinder date. And honestly? You don’t really want to.

7. You’re always exhausted.

You love your job. It’s your baby. But sometimes, it can be stressful and not fun. You take your mistakes and your fuck ups to heart, and when stressful situations happen, you can barely pick up your head you’re so mentally exhausted from it all.

8. People feel threatened or god forbid ’emasculated’ by you *eye roll*.

Many men will see your success and see your status as something that makes them feel weak and small. They will see your career soar, and will resent you for making them seem less significant. (If you’re dating a guy like this, drop him immediately).

9. You’d rather spend time with your girls than anyone else.

Your girlfriends and friendships mean the absolute world to you. You only have a handful of amazing friends, but that’s all you really need. They are your world, and you cherish their words of wisdom and advice.

10. You put your job over everything except your family and friends.

You worked hard to get your career up and running. You worked really, really hard to get to where you are now. You aren’t going to let some man take that away from you. And you aren’t going to settle for anything or anyone less than you deserve. You know you’ll find love someday. But for right now? You’re content where you are and with who you are. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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