At The End Of The Day, You Need To Do What’s Best For You


I’ve always been the type of person to apologize for everything. I apologize to the barista when she makes my drink wrong and I ask for a new one. I apologize when people bump into me without hesitation. And I apologize to anyone and everyone when I make an honest mistake.

But worst of all, I apologize whenever I do something just for me. And I always, always feel bad about it. Even if that something was lifting me up. And even if that something, was making life worth living. 

I shouldn’t apologize for doing what makes me happy. I shouldn’t apologize for saying no to a nice looking man at the club when he asks to dance with me. I shouldn’t apologize for making someone elses life inconvenient. I shouldn’t apologize for not being lovely all the time.

I shouldn’t apologize for saying no. I shouldn’t apologize for saying yes. I should never, ever apologize for saying how I feel when I feel it.

And you shouldn’t either.

At the end of the day, we all need to do what is best for us. No matter the stares or looks or gossip. At the end of the day, we need to do what lights us up after a long day at work. We need to stop apologizing for being ourselves, and for giving ourselves a shot.

So, stop apologizing for every little thing. Stop second guessing yourself. And stop doubting yourself.

You are worth more than you think you are. You are more special than you think you are. So, go and do what you have always wanted to do. Go and do what you have always dreamed of. Go and live the life you want.

Go move across the country just because. Go fall in love with someone who is the opposite of your type. Go bartend instead of working a 9 to 5 job. Go backpacking across Europe. Go seek whatever it is that makes you glow from the inside out. And do it without saying sorry.

Don’t live the life that everyone else wants you to live.

This is about you. You entered this world by yourself, and you will leave it by yourself. You know yourself better than anyone else. So, do your own self proud. Do yourself a favor. Be kind to your needs. Be kind to your wants.

And live the life that you were made for. Without hesitation. And without an apology.

Don’t stop when someone tells you to be careful. Don’t hesitate when people scoff at your dreams. Don’t quit when people stare at you with distaste.

Just go out there and live your best life. And watch yourself thrive and accomplish things you never knew were even possible. Watch yourself soar. And watch yourself never utter another ‘sorry’ again, for doing what is best for you. TC mark

Lauren Jarvis-Gibson

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He only wanted attention.
He only wanted validation.

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