Sometimes, life hands us things that we can’t control. And life can put us in circumstances we never saw coming. Sometimes, you have to leave the person you truly love, and you have to say goodbye to a person you thought of as your forever.
The only time it is ok to leave someone you love, is if either you are unhappy, or they are.
This may seem simple. I know, all couples go through shit. All couples struggle in some way. No one couple is perfect. Everyone is going to argue at one point in their time together. No one is going to be happy all the time. No one is going to always wear a smile on their face. But, the unhappiness I’m talking about here, is experiencing months and months of pain, of pushing and pulling, of nonstop crying, and of love that has evolved into resentment.
Don’t leave just because of an argument. Don’t leave because you are struggling with a few things in your relationship. You’ve got to try. You’ve got to give it your all. You’ve got to fight. Hard. You’ve got to give them all of you.
And if that’s not enough? You have to leave.
Leave if you are truly, truly unhappy. Leave when you find yourself looking at them, still so in love, but you know that your time has to come to an end. Leave if you feel like you have lost yourself in this relationship. Leave when you have that gut feeling in your stomach, that you don’t see forever with them. Leave if the distance has become too much, and you experience more hurt than joy. Leave if he has stopped looking at you during conversations and has stopped listening to you tell him about your day.
It isn’t your fault, or his. It isn’t a timing thing, either.
This isn’t giving up. This is working so hard to fight for something that is not there anymore. This is not throwing in the towel. This is having the strength to do what is best for you, even though you are still madly in love. This is not being selfish.
This is loving yourself enough, to do this. Even if it breaks your heart too.
Leave if you have tried everything in your power to make it work, and nothing has changed. Leave when you want it more than he does. Leave because you care more, and he knows it. You’ve got to do what is best for. Even though it makes you ache, and shake with pain. I know you have tried. I know you have fought like hell. But, it comes to a certain point where you are too exhausted to try anymore. You are too tired, to fight another day.
You’ve got to leave when you are doing your best, but your best still isn’t good enough.
You can’t stay to please them. You can’t stay because of the love. You will find greater love elsewhere. You will find love that is meant to be. And that is mean to stay.