I’m Single And Looking, But That Doesn’t Mean I’m Going To Settle For Being Half Loved

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Yes, I am single. And yes, I wouldn’t hate to have a boyfriend sooner or later. But, I am not going to settle like I have before in the past. I am not going to say ‘yes’ to the first boy I meet. I am not going to look at a pretty face and automatically fall into their lap.

I’m single, and I’m looking. But, that in no way means that I am going to settle for being half loved. And you shouldn’t either.

I’m not going to start dating someone right off the bat. I’m going to listen to my gut, and listen to my body. I’m not going to just jump headfirst without looking anymore.

Love deserves more than careless actions. And I do too.

I’m not going to date just to date. I’m going to date to find someone who makes me laugh the hardest. I’m going to date to find someone who comforts me when I feel lost. I’m going to date to find someone who makes me light up at just the thought of seeing him again.

I refuse to think of love as a waiting game. I refuse to think of love as something unattainable. Love is real, whether you believe it or not. And it will happen. It will happen to me and it will happen to you.

Love is not a one night stand. Love is not a drunken hook up. Love deserves so much more than that.

We just have to be adamant about it. We have to be adamant about not settling. We have to be adamant about finding someone who gets us. Who understands us. Who lifts us up, instead of tearing us down. Who genuinely wants to hear about how our day was. Who cries us with us when we experience loss. Who watches our favorite movie with us, just because they know it makes us happy. And who holds us when we feel anything but safe.

Us single girls get such a bad rep. People view us as being sad. As being lonely. As being ‘single forever’ cat ladies. But guess what? Most of us are single because we are empowered. Most of us are single because we have spent years in unfulfilled relationships.

Most of us are single because we know what we deserve. We finally, finally know our worth

And guess what? Knowing my worth is better than settling. It may not look like it on the outside looking in, but it truly is. I know what I deserve. I don’t deserve 50% anymore. I deserve 100%. We all do. 

Lauren Jarvis-Gibson

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You look back and you just feel stupid.
You can’t forgive yourself for falling
or believing all the lies.
You reread every text.
You relive every memory.
And it all starts making sense —
he never wanted love.
He only wanted attention.
He only wanted validation.

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