Never Apologize For Saying Goodbye

Wendy Liu
Wendy Liu

Don’t ever apologize for saying goodbye when it’s how you feel. Don’t apologize for doing what is best for. Don’t apologize for doing what you ultimately need to do at the end of the day. 

So many people hold onto someone even when they feel nothing. They hold onto someone who makes them feel inferior. Holding onto this person, will only destroy yourself in the process. To hold onto someone who is bad for you, is just selling yourself short.

In the end, you will regret prolonging it. You will regret prolonging the pain. Because no matter what anyone says or how anyone makes you feel, you have to do what makes you happy.

You have to do what makes you most comfortable. You have to follow your gut.

Saying goodbye is hard no matter what. It’s scary. It’s painful. It’s really difficult to do especially if you love that someone. But no matter the story, the history, and the love you two used to share, for whatever reason, it’s not enough anymore. For whatever reason, you don’t think that person is best for you.

And here’s the thing: you don’t ever have to have a reason for your emotions. You don’t have to back up how you feel. Ever.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that what you’re feeling is wrong. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you are making a mistake. Because guess what? Even if you are making a mistake, that’s your mistake to make. That’s your decision. Not anyone else’s.

At the end of the day, you’re the one who has to live with the choices that you make.

You’re the one who has control over how you are feeling. So, if something is amiss, if something doesn’t feel right, say goodbye. And know, that it’s ok to say goodbye. It’s ok to let go of someone who ended up not being the person you thought they were. It’s ok to let go of someone who you deeply love, but can’t bear to do long distance anymore. 

You will hurt people in this world. And people will hurt you. You can’t stop that from happening. But what you can stop, is blatantly ignoring your feelings.

Stop thinking that things will change in a few days. Quit making excuses for your own life. And I know, goodbyes always hurt. No matter what. But if you need to let that person go, and feel like that’s the best choice for you, then please do it.

Stop waiting around for things to change. It’s time to embrace the life that you have, the reality you are living in, and the emotions you are feeling. When you say goodbye, you will feel a weight lift of your back. You will feel lighter. Your heart will be happier.

Because for once, you actually listened to it. And you listened to yourself without second guessing your gut. You finally, loved yourself enough to do what was right for you. No matter how hard it was, or how scary it was, there is no greater feeling than saying goodbye when it was the thing you needed to do most.

Say goodbye. Kiss them good night. Send them your love and your warmest hug you can give them. Wish them well. Shed some tears. Say goodbye. And feel yourself sigh with relief. You are free. Feel your light grow brighter. Feel yourself finally exhaling without being scared of the aftermath.

Let yourself be free. And never apologize for that. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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