Contrary to popular belief, it’s actually quite easy to know if someone likes you or not. In college whenever I liked a guy, I would fret constantly about every text he sent, every move he made, and everything he ever said to me. But, it really shouldn’t be as hard as we make it seem.
1. If a guy isn’t into you, his texts will make it clear.
Whether we like it or not, texts can be the best way to figure out if someone is into you or not. If he takes days to respond or doesn’t reply at all, he’s not into you. If he replies with one word answers, he’s just not that into you. If he never asks you questions about yourself, he’s totally not into you. And finally, if he texts you, “Want to hang out?” at 2 a.m on a Monday, HE’S NOT INTO YOU.
2. If a guy isn’t into you, he will avoid you constantly.
So, let’s say you’ve been texting for a while and you’re very hopeful about your potential relationship. But, when you ask to hang out after school and he says no, I hope you know he’s not into you. And if you see him in the hallways and he half waves at you with a sheepish smile, he’s not that into you. When he see’s you at a party and ignores all of your attempts to try to dance with him, I’m sorry but he’s just not that into you.
3. If a guy isn’t into you, he won’t talk to you.
If a guy you are interested in won’t even try to initiate conversations with you through text, through face to face interaction or through any other way of communication, he’s not into you. Period.
4. If a guy isn’t into you, he might just tell you.
Sometimes, guys will actually do the right thing instead of leading you on. Sometimes, they will actually let you know how they feel and say it in a polite and empathetic way. Note – This is a very rare occasion.
5. If a guy isn’t into you, he will f*** you and go.
So, if you’re thinking that when you two finally have sex, that he might magically fall in love with you? Probably wrong. If you two decide to do the deed, and he immediately leaves and doesn’t even want to stay for the breakfast you made, he’s just not that into you. Also, what type of dude wouldn’t want to stay for breakfast?
Ladies and gents, it’s a cruel world out there and I’ve wasted so many days of my life pining over guys who didn’t give two craps about me. It wasn’t even their fault per say, it was just my naivety that made it worse.
So, don’t make the same mistakes as me and please recognize the signs when he’s just not that into you. Then, you can move the f*** on, because ain’t nobody got time for that.