The right person will love you in an entirely different way than your past lovers. You see, it’s not going to be picture perfect. It’s not going to be all butterflies and roses. It’s going to be tough work. It’s going to be a lot of compromising. And a lot of arguments. But, that is what is going to make it so right.
1. They won’t let your mistakes stop them from loving you.
What’s going to be different about the right person, is that they are still going to stand by your side even if you fuck up. They are still going to greet you with a kiss even if they are boiling mad at you. They are still going to love every inch of you. No. Matter. What. I promise.
2. They won’t leave.
What’s going to be different about the right person, is that they won’t break your heart. They will not leave you to rot alone. They won’t turn their back on you when you need them most. And they won’t run away when you need them to catch you in their arms.
3. They will listen to you instead of ignoring you.
The right person isn’t going to ignore you when you have a problem. They won’t push your problem away. They will listen contently, whether they like what they are hearing or not. And then, they will focus on how to change that and how to make you happier.
4. They will remember what makes you smile.
The person who is right for you, won’t ever forget what makes your world light up. They will remember the tiny details about you that you even can forget sometimes. They will notice when you stare at a piece of jewelry while shopping, they will notice when you turn up your nose at something they cook, and they will listen to your heartbeat to find out what type of kiss you like best.
5. They won’t control you.
The right person won’t want to control you in any way. They will know that you are your own person and you are capable of making decisions by yourself. They won’t tell you which shoes look better on you, because they like the way you smile when you try on a pair of ugly sneakers. They won’t tell you not to order that pizza, because they love the way your eyes brighten at the first smell of it. They love you just the way you are, ugly shoes and all.
6. They won’t want you to be anyone but yourself.
The right person isn’t going to nag at you for not brushing your hair, or not wearing the appropriate dress to a cocktail party. They aren’t going to scoff at you for spilling red wine on your white shirt, or for falling all the way home in your high heels. They will adore every single thing you do. And they won’t want you to pretend to be someone you aren’t.
7. They will let you be.
The right person for you isn’t going to suffocate you with their presence. They will want you to have your alone time, as well as theirs. They know that a healthy relationship requires balance. And some days, you are really going to need space. The right person will respect that.
8. Your friends and parents will love them.
If your parents or friends don’t like the guy you are dating, that is a serious red flag. The right person for you will do everything in their power to make sure the ones close to you, feel safe knowing you are with that person. The right person will be polite with your parents and will reassure them that you are in good hands. The right person will not be a threat to you or your close ones.
9. They will be affectionate with you (but not overly).
No matter what their preference is for PDA, the right person for you will steal every opportunity to hug you, hold hands with you, or touch you gently on the shoulder. The right person will want you to always feel safe and comfortable wherever you are.
10. They will always make you laugh.
No matter how bad of a day you had, or how bad of a mood you are in, the right person will never fail to make giggle. The right person for you will just get your sense of humor, and will always try to lighten the mood with something they know will make you feel better. Their main goal is to make you happy. And to let you know how much they love you every single day.