Being Alone Doesn’t Mean You Have To Be Lonely

Flickr / Leo Hidalgo
Flickr / Leo Hidalgo

Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to feel lonely. In fact, being alone can feel just as rewarding, if not more than being around other people.

Losing a great friend or significant other can make it seem like being alone is the absolute worst thing in the world. You want to immediately seek comfort in your friends and in other desires.

But being alone will not only help you gain more independence, it will make you stronger and happier too.

Spend some time going over what it is that makes your heart light up like a glow stick at a Taylor Swift concert. Is it art? Is it volunteer work? Is it music? Then go and do it. Learn it. Perform it. Embrace it. But don’t invite anyone else to the party. This is a party just for one and it’s the best kind of party.

Study something you have always wanted to but never had the time for. Go out dancing by yourself in your favorite clothes. Go on a long drive and belt out your secret guilty pleasure songs. Eat your favorite types of food and smile because no one gets to judge you about it. Dance around your room like a maniac and laugh like one too. Take a walk by yourself in your hometown. Treat yourself to a very large chocolate milkshake and don’t feel ashamed when you drink the whole thing. Cook yourself a huge meal and relish in the fact that you don’t have to share it with anyone else.

Be the person you want to say hello to in the morning and goodnight to in the evening. Be the person you want to look in the mirror at and smile because you are glorious. Be the person who will take care of you when you’re sick and love you when your heart hurts. Be your own caretaker. And be your own hero.

Because at the end of the day, you only have you so you might as well be the best you that you can be. And it’s about damn time you started loving yourself. TC mark

Lauren Jarvis-Gibson

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he never wanted love.
He only wanted attention.
He only wanted validation.

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  • http://hollyinhell14.wordpress.com hollyinhell

    This is the best thing I’ve read in a while and a great pick-me-up as I was feeling down and uncomfortable with being alone. Thank you!

  • Heartafire

    Some people can be fine with being alone, others no so much. This is a fine and inspiring text, in the end we only “have” ourselves, we come in and go out alone we need to be happy with ourselves, seek out things we enjoy doing, meet and greet people when we feel we can. Thank you for this article on a very important issue.

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  • http://jr.jaldon.coffee.God.wordpress.com TheAspiringCatholic

    Well stated. There is a difference with being lonely and simply alone. Alone helps us to be with us and the Creator.

  • http://livinlikelinsey.wordpress.com linseylewicki

    Yes, Yes , YESS!

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