Aries: March 21st-April 19th

What you’ve been doing: Flirting with and going on dates with anyone and everyone who catches your eye, trying to convince yourself that you’re still desirable and the breakup hasn’t hurt you in the slightest.

What you need to do: Take a break and process the emotions, admitting to yourself that the relationship was a big part of your life and that it did matter- which means it does hurt now that it’s over. The more you try to fill the void with other people, the harder it will be to move on, because you’ve refused to let yourself deal with this in a healthier way. Remind yourself that you are still worthy of love and this doesn’t change simply because the relationship is over.

Taurus: April 20th-May 20th

What you’ve been doing: Deleting all traces of them from your life so that you aren’t attacked with reminders of them- yet still harboring resentment and some bitterness towards the other person (even if you’re the one that ended it), trying to remain more angry and distant than sad about things ending.

What you need to do: Holding onto resentment for things your ex did to you in the relationship is only going to cause you to stay hung up on the past- and refusing to be sad about it won’t make the process any faster. Take some time to deal with the sadness and find someone you trust to be with you while you deal with things- whether it’s to vent, cry, or whatever it takes to admit the relationship was important and it wasn’t all bad, despite that it’s over now. The sooner you can find a way to accept that, the sooner you’ll find yourself able to move forward towards a better future, which we both know is what you’ve been wanting all along.

Gemini: May 21st-June 20th

What you’ve been doing: Respecting your ex’s space- kind of. You still find reasons to text them, run into them- anything to keep your foot in the door because you can’t stand the thought of being cut off from them completely (even if it’s for the best).

What you need to do: Take some time to completely sever those ties- yes, I mean completely. If you keep holding onto the hope that you’re going to get back together, you’ll never fully move on- and it’s not fair to string them or yourself along in the process. You’ll have plenty of options out there, but trying to hold onto your ex as one of them isn’t going to allow you to see what else is out there waiting for you.

Cancer: June 21st-July 22nd

What you’ve been doing: Reliving every single good memory in your head about the relationship- remembering all the love and happiness you shared with them and making yourself miserable wondering what you did wrong.

What you need to do: Remember all aspects of the relationship- there is a reason why it ended, and you need to accept that. While you may still have fond memories of them, you have to remember why you separated, and that even if you never feel like you’re fully over it, in time perspective will make things easier to realize that even really good things come to an end, and that’s okay.

Leo: July 23rd-August 22nd

What you’ve been doing: Diving headfirst into any possible adventure or experience available to you-you believe if you can just distract yourself with enough things to do, you can forget about them (yet you’re also posting pictures of all your escapades online so that your ex can see how great you’re doing without them).

What you need to do: Give yourself a couple of days or so to process all the emotions- you have such a big heart, and trying to pretend you aren’t hurting isn’t going to help in the long run. Once you’ve worked through all the hurt, grab your friends and take a trip together- but use it as a bonding experience rather than a means of escape. You’re so full of life and it has so much to offer you- once you’re able to see this fully then you’ll be ready to take on anything else life is ready to throw your way.

Virgo: August 23rd-September 22nd

What you’ve been doing: Throwing yourself into your work or a new project: anything that allows you to have some sort of control and stability in your life to fill the void the relationship left.

What you need to do: Take the time to reflect on the relationship- not overanalyze or nitpick it. Come to terms with the fact that some things truly are beyond your control- including relationships. Once you’ve worked through and accepted that the relationship is over, rather than avoiding it, you’ll find that sense of peace you’ve been looking for- and you can know that it was most likely for the best at the end of it all.

Libra: September 23rd-October 22nd

What you’ve been doing: Avoiding anyone and everyone- you refuse to let anyone see you upset or emotional over the breakup, and if you do have to go anywhere, you’re putting on your best smile and acting as if nothing is wrong.

What you need to do: Absolutely take some time to yourself- but don’t shut everyone else out. Feelings can be overwhelming and it helps to reach out to some trusted friends who can give you some perspective and help you work through what you’re feeling and how to handle it.

Scorpio: October 23rd-November 21st

What you’ve been doing: Doing just about anything to dull the pain- drinking in excess, overworking yourself, hooking up with random people- your emotions are intense and you believe the only way to handle it is to numb yourself until everything goes away.

What you need to do: As much as it hurts- you need to allow yourself to feel the pain in its entirety. Trying to drown it out will only make it hit much harder later on, so grab some of your closest friends and talk everything out to them- even if it means having a full-on breakdown. Your friends can help you see things about the relationship that you were blind to, and in time you’ll reach a place where you’ll recognize how much better off you are now that you’re out of the relationship.

Sagittarius: November 22nd-December 21st

What you’ve been doing: Booking as many last minute trips as you can, as well as doing absolutely everything you felt you weren’t able to do in the relationship to prove to yourself it was holding you back.

What you need to do: Take some time to be alone- whether that’s on a trip or just in your room- yet rather than try to focus on the relationship and it’s setbacks, reflect on the positive times, too. Strangely enough, taking the time to admit that the relationship wasn’t all bad will make it easier to move on- it was a lesson you can learn from and take with you and will allow you to not harbor hate or resentment- emotions that like to take root and stick around, making it harder to move on.

Capricorn: December 22nd-January 19th

What you’ve been doing: Burying yourself in work more than usual (which is really saying something) in attempt to remind yourself that you aren’t a failure and that you still have intrinsic value despite that the relationship is over. You think if you can succeed and prove your worth in other areas then the pain won’t matter, so it isn’t worth acknowledging now.

What you need to do: Surround yourself with loved ones who aren’t afraid to express how much they care about you. Talk things out and allow yourself to feel the emotions rather than burying them under work- and remind yourself that not everything in life is logical, including people and relationships- in time, you’ll be able to accept the relationship for what it was rather than viewing it as a personal failure to be hung up on.

Aquarius: January 20th-February 18th

What you’ve been doing: Detaching from your emotions altogether in an attempt to deny that you’re even remotely affected by the ending of the relationship while giving off the appearance that this is exactly how you wanted things to be so that no one pities you.

What you need to do: Rather than detaching from the emotions, find a way to release them in a healthier way: perhaps by writing or creating something from it. While it will hurt in the process of trying to deal with things, you’ll feel much more cathartic if you’re using the pain to create rather than let it eat away at you- and you’ll actually begin to feel much lighter as you’ll be able to examine the relationship from different angles and perspectives. In time, you’ll be able to let the pain go and move on to something else now that it’s out in the world somehow.

Pisces: February 19th-March 20th

What you’ve been doing: Feeling every emotion possible and trying to handle things, but refusing to ask for help because you don’t want to bother the people you care about. Most likely still typing out messages to try and reach out to your ex in hopes to get some closure, but deleting them before you hit send so that you don’t seem too attached to them still.

What you need to do: Find someone to talk to- whether it’s a friend, family member, even a therapist- to process all the emotions together. There is no shame in having a hard time moving on, and the people that love you won’t look down on you for it- you are not a burden just because you’re asking for help. You’ll be amazed how much easier it will feel once you stop holding in all the emotions and finally let them out- and you may be shocked at what you’ll discover in the process. Once you can finally put those feelings on the table, you’ll find how much easier it will be to finally move on.