I used to give people the benefit of the doubt. I used to think people and relationships would get better after you got to know them or if you gave people time. But I’ve begun to realize that this is generally not the case. Some people take time to know and grow on you, but you also shouldn’t force things. Especially relationships.

If you’re forcing something from the beginning, you will never really know where you stand with someone. You don’t want a relationship that is based off of false notions, of one person wanting more from the start. The only thing that can happen from that point on is disappointment.

When starting a new relationship, tread lightly. If you have to force conversations, run. If this person doesn’t take the chance to get to know you fully, get out. Relationships should be mutual. Same with friendships.

If your potential romantic partner is dry and boring to you in his text messages, hate to break it to you, but he’s probably not much better in person. Interest shows in our actions or inactions. Learn to recognize the signs of someone who wants you versus someone who has a passing interest in you.

This also comes to friendships. If your friendship begins to feel forced, it’s time to let it go. It may be hard to let go of longtime friends and acquaintances, but it may be for the best. Ask yourself, “How is this friendship serving me? Is it benefiting me? What am I getting out of this?” Be truthful to yourself.

Life is short. Time is limited. Don’t waste time on halfway people. Don’t be a halfway person either. Stop wasting precious time on people that don’t matter. We have so many moments and chances in life; it seems silly to use them on the wrong people. So many people are out there.

Ones who will value you. Love you. Care for you. Wait and find these people. They’re out there, probably looking for someone just like you.

So ditch that friend who never bothers to ask how you are. End the relationship that constantly leaves you questioning your worth. Life can sometimes be lonely, but it’s better lonely than to be surrounded by people who could leave at any moment. Know your worth. Add tax. And keep going. Always.