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What Is A Soulmate? It’s More Than Just Someone We Date

What is a soulmate? It’s more than a lover.

“It’s not like love at first sight, really. It’s more like… gravity moves. When you see her, suddenly it’s not the earth holding you here anymore. She does. And nothing matters more than her. And you would do anything for her, be anything for her… You become whatever she needs you to be, whether that’s a protector, or a lover, or a friend, or a brother.” – Stephanie Meyer

What is a soulmate?

Is it the person you spend your life with? Or is it just a person who comes into your life and doesn’t leave? Is it the person who ends up being your forever? Or is it possible to find soulmates within average people we come across? People who change our lives just by being in it. People who enter and there’s just a before and after in us from their presence alone. Maybe that is a partner. Maybe it’s a parent. Or sibling. Maybe it’s a friend who has never left.

“What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.” – Aristotle.

Regardless of who this person might be when we find them we are never the same again.

I don’t think soulmates are so simple defined by the people we date. I think they can be found anywhere. These people who somehow complete us and make our lives and hearts a little more whole. The people who not only take the time to understand us but the people who are us in a way. It’s souls recognizing each other as one in the same.

And once you find each other and you find that connection it’s almost without effort or trying at all and it doesn’t die out. It just stays there.

It’s the people who make us better versions of ourselves. The people who love us unconditionally. The people who realize our value and never stop reminding us of it.

It’s the people we get along with best. But also the people who challenge us and push us to be more. The people who make us laugh the loudest. The people who understand our silence and glares and uncertainty. It’s the person who can look at us and they can tell what type of day you are having. Someone who understands our dialogue without words. Someone who doesn’t need much but our presence to make them feel whole and alive again.

It’s the connection we can’t explain. It’s the relationship that is unlike any other.

A soulmate isn’t just defined by the person who is on the receiving end of the words ‘I do.’ It’s that person who gets you in a way you are still trying to understand yourself.

And as confusing and difficult as life may get, the only thing you are most confident in moments of doubt is them. Because you know they are never going to let you down.

It’s the words ‘I love you’ that roll off the tongue so easily without question.

It’s the common concern for someone other than ourselves.

It’s looking at someone and truly believing despite their flaws they are the most perfect person we’ve ever met.

We look for them in everyone else only to again be reminded how rare they are and how lucky we are to have found one another.

It’s a mutual respect.

It’s the same kindness.

It’s the conversation at 2AM that make you think.

It’s the one person in our lives who constantly meet us halfway and it never feels difficult.

It’s meeting this person and even the thought of something happening to them would shake up our world so dramatically.

Your rock.

Your pain when something hurts.

Your confidant.

Your best friend.

Your loudest laugh.

Your best memories.

Your confidence in moments of doubt.

Your strength in moments of weakness.

Your light when in the dark.

A half that makes you whole.

They are found when you aren’t looking. When you begin to doubt everyone around you. When you think the only person you can trust is yourself. They come into your life and touch your heart and leave such a mark on you, you’re never the same again. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Kirsten Corley

Writer living in Hoboken, NJ with my 2 dogs.