The Difference Between Boys And Gentlemen

Emily Broad

Boys confuse you.

Gentlemen make you a little more confident in them.

Boys want you to make them happy.

Gentlemen know there is nothing better than putting a smile on her face.

Boys don’t know what they want.

Gentlemen tell you how they are going to get it.

Boys cancel plans hours before.

Gentlemen keep their word from 3 days ago.

Boys want to take you home to their room.

Gentlemen want to take you home to their mom.

Boys let you pay.

Gentlemen pick up the tab every time.

Boys take you home when you’re too drunk.

Gentlemen take care of you when you are.

Boys don’t talk about the future.

Gentlemen ask if you’re free in three months.

Boys make up excuses.

Gentlemen know when to apologize.

Boys listen when you tell them what you want to do.

Gentlemen ask you how can they help you get there.

Boys like immediate gratification.

Gentlemen know the importance of waiting.

Boys have jobs.

Gentlemen have careers.

Boys leave when something goes wrong.

Gentlemen help you to work through it and learn.

Boys are polite and show manners when they want something.

For gentlemen, it’s a way of life.

Boys can’t answer what they want to do in a few years.

Gentlemen will tell you about their five-year plan.

Boys date when they are bored.

Gentlemen date looking for something real and long-lasting.

Boys care most about what you look like.

Gentlemen care about the type of person you are.

Boys will send you mixed signals.

Gentlemen will be so blunt it throws you off a bit.

Boys don’t want to meet your friends or family.

Gentlemen already know all about them before you bring him around.

Boys fear commitment.

Gentlemen look for it.

Boys date more than one girl.

Men know the right girl is enough. TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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