Before You Fall In Love With Someone Broken Remember This

Jeff Isy
Jeff Isy

It takes a special kind of person to love someone who is broken. It isn’t simply loving her, it’s teaching her everything up to that point she didn’t deserve. It’s rewiring everything she’s come to believe and being the exception.

It comes within respecting her brokenness. She never wanted to meet someone who could put her back together.

She learned to love herself the way she wished other people had. She learned to own the parts of herself she used to reject. She learned to have confidence in what is broken, not letting what could be missing in her life, define her.

So you’ll run your fingers along her sharp edges and show her it doesn’t have to hurt. You’ll show her someone who will stay, even when things are hard. You’ll show her it doesn’t matter what happened or with who, what matters is the two of you there right now.

It’s teaching her she can trust someone other than herself. Because up until now she’s been the number one person she can rely on.

It takes strength to stand alone but even greater strength to continue to stand back up every time someone knocks her down.

Teach her that not everyone will hurt her. Teach her that not everyone will leave. Teach her that people do mean what they say and she’s not the only honest person in the world.

In return, she will doubt you.

She’ll question you and second-guess things. She will want more than anything to run the other way. Don’t let her.

The only reason she is running is because she wants to beat you to it. The only reason she’s running is because she wants to look back and she’ll see you’re still chasing her.

Very few can keep up at her pace. And the closer you get the faster she runs. But trust me when I say she’s worth the trouble.

Because once she trusts you, she’ll love you harder than you ever thought someone could.

She’ll redefine what you thought love meant. You’ll meet her and you’ll never be the same.

So before you take on the challenge of loving someone broken, ask yourself, are you willing to endure everything that comes with it?

But most of all you should ask yourself do you even deserve such a person, and can you love her the way she deserves? TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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