What It Means To Fall In Love With A Girl Who Doesn’t Fully Love Herself

She berates every bit of her being, disparaging her strong body, her brilliant mind, her powerful capacity to love. She wishes she were someone else, anyone else, negating the blessings this life has bestowed upon her. And above all else, she questions your presence, your love for her, your attraction to her heart, your willingness to stay despite her flaws — because she’s the girl who doesn’t fully love herself.

When you fall in love with the girl who doesn’t fully love herself, you’ll need to reassure her. You’ll spend your days reminding her why you fell for her, showering her with all she has to offer the world. She’ll probe you with her wondering eyes, hoping you dove below her delicate beauty and sought to discover her tender heart. But in return, she’ll give you the love she doesn’t fully believe she deserves, accepting every piece of you with a powerful empathy she can never seem to reserve for herself.

When you fall in love with the girl who doesn’t fully love herself, you’ll need to remain confident in the face of her doubts. She’ll express her deepest fears without reservation, worrying that she is unworthy of your love, fearing that you will walk away and leave her brokenhearted. But in return, she’ll create a foundation of honesty in your relationship, encouraging you to speak what’s on your heart, no matter how vulnerable your own fears may feel.

When you fall in love with the girl who doesn’t fully love herself, you’ll need to express your love for her wholeheartedly. She’ll search high and low for signs of your unconditional love, hoping that you will understand her most painful traumas and shower her with the pure love she’s sought for a lifetime. But in return, she’ll teach you how to speak her language, connecting you to her through love alone, fostering a powerful, unspoken bond that will rise far above her insecurity.

The girl who doesn’t fully love herself seeks out love in others, praying that her desert of self-love will blossom into an oasis with your love alone. But know that while she may feel hard to fall in love with, she will teach you the power of empathy, confidence, and expression — lessons that will carry you through life together and reignite her self-love.


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Kelly Douglas

Lives for red lipstick, high heels, 80’s pop, cats, and Oxford commas.