You Deserve Better

There are just some words you don’t want to hear, especially if they arrange to tell you “I’m not ready to be in a relationship right now.” It’s even worse when they come from the lips of someone you truly like.

And although they just blatantly told you there is no chance you’ll ever be together. You stick around anyway. You think maybe if I show him how great I am, then maybe he’ll change his mind. You think maybe he’s just testing my loyalty. You think that settling for being friends with benefits is better than nothing at all, even if it’s at the expense of your true happiness. 

But the reality is he’s never going to change his mind.

You can be beautiful, you can be funny, you can be intelligent. You can be the best potential girlfriend you can be, but it will never be enough. Because you can’t change the way a guy feels about you. No matter how hard you try.

And you shouldn’t have to, because what you really want is out there. It isn’t so far featched that it only belongs in your imagination. You aren’t high maintenance. You aren’t crazy. You don’t have to settle for less. You don’t have to compromise your values and desires.

You are more than a one night stand. You are more than a drunken hookup. You are more than nights spent in his bedroom, because he doesn’t think you’re worth the effort to take you out. You are more than the agonizing pain of waiting for him to acknowledge your value.

I know it hurts because you like him. I know you wish it can be more. I know you just want him to want you the way you want him. I know you think that if you hold out a little longer, he’ll change his mind.

But he won’t. And that’s okay because he’s not the one for you.

One day you will find someone who will see that you are something special. He will see that you are worth all the effort. That you deserved to be wined and dined and showered with unconditional love.

Don’t settle for less, because it will leave you broken and alone. And love should never feel like that.

Love shouldn’t have to be this guessing game where you constantly wonder if this is the day he’ll choose you.  He should choose you the day he meets you. You don’t need to change his mind because it’s already made up, and you’ll be happy you didn’t burn yourself out trying to convince him.

Graduate student, Writer and Lifestyle Blogger.

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