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Stop Waiting For Someone To Save You

Stop giving your power away. No one is coming to save you.

Do you sometimes feel like you’re falling down a hole, frantically searching for someone’s hand to grab yours and pull you out? Are you sitting around waiting for someone to tell you what to do because you can’t make a decision? Do you find yourself overwhelmed, lonely, angry, or depressed because life isn’t going the way you’d like it to?

At some point in our lives, I believe most people experience these feelings, or at least something like it, where we search the outside world for things or people that will ‘fix’ our problems. When we feel like we can’t handle what’s happening around us in our life situation, we need to start turning inward to find the solution we are so desperately seeking and stop giving our power away to what we think will take care of us.

The harsh reality is that no one is coming to save us.

We are responsible for ourselves, our lives, and our happiness. We are unique beings and no one can live our lives for us; that is why it is imperative that we take complete control of that which we can, and leave the rest up to the higher powers. It is completely up to us to be aware of our thoughts, words, and actions as they shape our lives, because believe it or not, what you are doing, thinking, and saying in this present moment will determine what plays out in the future.

The good news is that if we don’t like what might be coming in the future, we can change it. We don’t have to keep playing out our old stories of always being broke, or lonely, or sad, or whatever. We have the ability, right now, to make a different choice.

This is where your power is.

It’s in the choice. You can choose to stay exactly where you are, or you can choose to take control of your reality. When you choose to take control, you are using your power in a way that is in alignment with who you truly are. Our natural state of existence is well-being. We are meant to feel good! When you deliberately choose to do things that make you feel good, that fill you up with joy, love, and appreciation, you are consciously creating your future. You are acting out of a place of self-love instead of fear or lack, which will ultimately bring you more experiences to feel joyous about.

Waiting for someone or something else to come along and help you keeps you in a state of lack because you don’t feel empowered to choose change. That dream job won’t just land in your lap if you don’t send out resumes or talk to people. Your soul mate won’t just show up one day if you keep hiding in your house because you’re afraid to put yourself out there. You won’t move forward if you choose to do nothing. You have to take action.

Your life is completely up to you. Reach out and ask for help, but know that it is your job to make yourself happy, no one can do it for you. Do things that create a feeling so luscious, so satisfying, so fulfilling that you can’t contain the goodness you feel. When that good-feeling spills over into your life and the lives of others (when you feel good that feeling is spread easily, and the same goes for the opposite), your life begins to change. It becomes easy to ‘find’ the happiness you were looking for because you now create it for yourself. Your vibration has changed. You feel more empowered because you are in control. You create more space within yourself so you can respond instead of react. You are more at peace and can show compassion for yourself and others.

Take a moment and ask yourself if there’s anywhere in your life where you’re giving your power away to something external that you think is the answer. How does that make you feel? If it makes you feel anything less than amazing and fulfilled, what is one tiny thing you can do today that will create some joy in your life? Something as seemingly insignificant as taking a walk, eating an ice cream on a hot day can have a massive effect on the way you feel. I encourage you to take action to feel good every day because you, and only you, are in charge of your one and only glorious life.

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